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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Until you deal with your issues, there will be issues with another family in your new neighborhood.

You also need to help your daughter build up some self esteem.  She shouldn't be running over there every time she's invited.  Teach her to stand up for herself "No Molly.  I don't want to come over.  You always invite someone else and then you both ignore me.  It's mean and I dont want to hang out with you anymore"  Obviously that needs a lot of work.

The best thing you can do right now is teach your DD to grow a backbone.  Otherwise the jealousy and approval monster is going to eat her up, just like it did to you. [/quote]

Agreed. This is a parenting issue, not a real estate issue. You can teach your daughter that she doesn't have to accept mean behavior. [/quote]

I was going to say this.  You have a perfect opportunity to help your daughter learn to manage these situations.  I would say she could respond "No Molly.  I don't want to come over.  You always invite someone else and then you both ignore me.  Why do you do that?" and see if she can get to the root of the issue.  My quiet DD would often report that others left her out.  When I could watch though, it was evident that they were not deliberately leaving her out as much as she didn't know how to insert herself into an activity.  Kids - particularly younger ones - are not as attuned to looking out for strays.  They get busy playing and don't notice someone not participating.  My DD needed to practice speaking up for herself.  Now if these kids are deliberately mean, that's a different matter.  [/quote]

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