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I guess I've never met people who chose to be SAH parents simply because they wanted to and then complained about not having enough money. I only know SAHMs who are happy with their choice, or those that felt like they didn't have a choice, and are justifiably frustrated.

When my first was born, I wound up switching jobs because my old job would make no accommodation for either pumping breastmilk at work or allowing me some flexibility in start/stop time in order to accommodate my daycare's hours. I STILL resent that, and it's been years. Yes, I could have tried to fight it through HR, but I'd just returned to work, had an infant at home, was still dealing with postpartum depression, and honestly just didn't have it in me. It was easier to just get a different (lower paying) job.

This country treats mothers of all stripes terribly. I honestly don't blame anyone for complaining about it, whether they are SAH, WOH, or otherwise. We're all doing unpaid labor and being told that we should be grateful for it everyday.[/quote]

I have definitely met people who chose to be SAHMs, were happy about it, but were also a little holier-than-thou about how frugal and good at money management they were to make it work on one salary. (My own mom!) I think that's admirable when the one income is under six figures, but when someone says they manage to "only" live on more than my husband's and my combined income, I roll my eyes a little. Having never made $150k, I don't think running a household on it without day care costs is a huge challenge.

That said, I agree that this country treats moms like trash, I'm sorry you had those experiences, and I'm so, so with you on your last paragraph.[/quote]

Omg I grew up around a lot of very affluent Mormons and they are full of this holier than thou sahm stuff. [/quote]

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