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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What does your husband say?[/quote]

Nothing. He’s just happy that his son wants to maintain this family tradition but is disinterested in my son’s future. My son’s bio dad isn’t in the picture and he has no living grandparents. The only grandparents he knows are DH’s parents and they are nice to him but it’s obvious they love their own grandson while taking a polite interest in my son. What hurts is that I cooked, cleaned, tutored and took care of both kids for many years but there’s no acknowledgement for my role in their grandson’s success and no acknowledgement for my son either.[/quote]

What a sad twisted family dynamic.

Your poor child will need therapy for years to come.

I hope this is an uncommon patterns in so-called blended families. [/quote]

OP should have expected this given that she’s been married to the husband for a long time. It’s also greedy to expect non blood relatives to pay for stepchildren. What if they divorce? Grandparents don’t benefit from investing in a step grandchildren. Not their legacy.[/quote]

What are we living on Feudal manors??? I have an adopted child. My entire family treats her EXACTLY the same as other children in the family. Because she is family. This is not about getting some type of blood test to prove you merit their love and support. How archaic and inhumane[/quote]

OP's husband didn't adopt her son. Adopted kids are not the same as step kids at all. [/quote]

Then people should stop referring to "non blood" relatives like they are second class citizens. Adopted family members are NON BLOOD, for whatever that matters. That phrase is offensive and inappropriate.[/quote]

Kids who are adopted are legally their kids.  Stepkids have no legal part so if parents divorce, step parent never sees or is responsible for the child again.  Big difference.  I have step kids.  They have a mom and dad.  They are not my responsibility (I choose to do for them but ultimately they are their parents responsibility) nor is it my families to help with anything or treat them the same as mine.  [/quote]

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