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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can be gracious and say that while you appreciate the offer, it would be problematic to treat the two brothers differently, so you will sort it out on your own with both of them.

Or you could accept the money with a grateful thank-you, and use it to offset the money you will spend toward the other young man's tuition.

Those are your options. [/quote]

It is sad to me that the grandparents are so craven.

If the child ever wondered if relatives (on the husband's side) loved them both the same...they have their answer.

I think the husband should say this is awkward and inconsiderate to the other child. He can ask if they could give it as a blanket gift to the family's college expenses or turn it down.

The statement needs to be made that all the children in the family are solidly in the family, not some netherland of relationship.[/quote]

Unfortunately, DH's son is not OP's son, and conversely, OP's son isn not DH's. It's unfortunate the DH's parents won't pay for OP's son's college education, but I don't see it as realistic that DH would turn down an opportunity for his son to make it fair for the stepson.

What I would hope at least, is the DH will help pay for OP's son's education since OP is saying she has helped raise his son. But my guess is that the writing has been on the wall regarding DH all along.[/quote]

It is not their responsibility.  Its nice to offer for their grandchild.  OP and her husband should be saving for both kids.[/quote]

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