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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm getting married in August. My fiance and I wanted to do a ceremony with immediate family only, but we are close with our aunts and uncles and they expressed wishes that we include them if at all possible. I'm wracked with the stress of people talking about me like you talk about your cousin, but we are having a gathering of 50 people with strict limitations in place ([b]masks required, drinks will come to the table instead of people walking up to the bar, no passed appetizers, etc)[/b]. Just because they are having a wedding doesn't mean this is a wedding of 150 people that would have happened last year with sweaty bodies all over the dance floor, and it doesn't mean that they value their "big day" (kind, non-judgmental use of quotes from your post) over the lives of their families. It seems like the best thing you could do would be to send your regrets and support instead of showing up and side-eyeing all that do participate in the ceremony.[/quote]

I’m sorry, but that all sounds terrible. Go with your initial plan of immediate family only, and have a big reception in a year or two when things go back to normal.[/quote]

Agreed even if you need to do it in 2 years or your 5th anniversary with your kids running around. It’s okay to wait. You won’t be less married and your celebration in the future won’t be less fun.[/quote]

First, PP, you should have the immediate family only and then hire someone to video broadcast the wedding for the aunts and uncles who are remote.  Pay for a Zoom business account and they can all log in and watch the event, the aunts and uncles can chat with each other (just turn the audio off on the broadcasting camera and they can actually talk to each other on zoom without disturbing the ceremony).  They get the social aspect of attending and get to watch the event and socialize/chat with each other.

After things open up for good, you can have an anniversary reception on your first or second anniversary to invite everyone to come and celebrate with you.

Do not be guilted into a bigger event than you know to be safe just to appease them.  That's part of being an adult.  Doing what you know is right instead of what you want.[/quote]

No, being an adult doesn't mean being patronizing to your family members.  If you had originally planned to invite them, and they have expressed their desire to come under the circumstances, let them make their own choice.

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So choosing to take advantage of technology to protect others during a global pandemic is "patronizing"? Oh, OK. Thanks for setting us all straight. [/quote]

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