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[quote=Anonymous]I was the child in this situation.  My parents' insistence on having dinners together was awkward and annoying.  In no way did it make me think they were going to get back together, because even a short time was painfully awkward.  I doubt the kids are fooled in any way.  "Keep up appearances" of what, exactly?  The kids can tell that their parents are divorced!

I agree that this means the dad isn't really serious about the OP.  Not because the dinners are happening and she isn't invited (this is fine, and kids deserve time with their parents and no extra people).  But because it's been a year and she hasn't met the kids at all.  It seems like he doesn't want to change the family dynamic while the kids are still at home.  And I think that's completely understandable.  It's a big hassle to re-integrate everyone into a new family setup, just as they've settled down to a "new normal" post-divorce.  I think parents have the right to date, but it isn't always worth the blowback if you aren't sufficiently enthusiastic about the relationship.[/quote]

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