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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - thanks for the replies (most of them anyways); yeah, I have mentioned it to the other moms in the group: Hey, can we include XX? Everyone always says, sure, invite her along! So I do.
It's more when someone else initiates the event, she is overlooked. Why? 
Well, she is a bit awkward; her child isn't very outgoing, either, and naturally gravitates toward one other friend and isn't involved in the same activities as the other kids (we all know each other from soccer in addition to school). Nobody dislikes her, and people are always happy to have her come along--this truly is not a mean girl/snobby group--but I don't think she's at the top of everyone's mind when putting together an event.

Now I feel like any time anything happens with our kids, I should invite her, but her son often hangs on the sidelines and so does she. But if I don't include her, I will feel terrible as well.

What I have done is try to include her in smaller things that I initiate, but by doing this, I feel that she thinks that everything I do, she should also come along with. So for the party, for example, this was another mom's event. She had a parade, a cake, a musician she hired played music in their front yard for a half hour, and she had favors for the guests. It wasn't something I could very easily just invite somebody else to, like a group meeting at an ice cream truck.

The mom in question just commented under the photo, Wish I had known about this!

I don't know what to do, I think now her behavior is really beginning to make people feel on the spot. I get it, as someone who was a dorky elementary schooler, I feel like I should be especially inclusive, but I also cannot tell other people who to invite. Then when she gets uncomfortable I also feel responsible if she's being shy at a party (she has asked me to drive her or pick her up before, so if she wants to leave I go home too).

Help! Ack. Sorry, I am venting, this is just awkward...and to those who think I enjoy excluding people? Wow just wow, having been there, um no.

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OK enough with the drama and making this so overblown:

"I am always happy to invite you to my events, or to let you know if I hear about open events. If you have a question about Susan's event, you'll need to talk to her directly."

Two sentences.

Done. [/quote]

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