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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could have written your post. I try really hard not to take it personally, but at a certain point (after, say, two unreciprocated invitations), I stop.

I'm sorry we don't know each other in real life -- I'd invite you over![/quote]

OP here--thanks!  I do take it personally, I don't see how one couldn't take it personally.  I just don't know what I'm doing wrong.  I'm a nice, normal person.  DH says that I'm "too drama-free."  His theory is that people like people with drama, and those with too little drama come off as inauthentic somehow.  I thought that was an interesting perspective.  It made me think of an acquaintance I used to be friendly with who was so full of drama all the time that it got really tiring, but the ironic thing was that she has tons of friends and is always out with people.

I even started seeing a therapist so I could get some objective feedback about why I can't make friends and what I'm doing to turn people off.  The therapist was not able to offer me any suggestions.  [/quote]

I'm sure your DH means well, but his theory is just silly.  I don't think that drama-free people are inauthentic.  I think they're perfect friendship material!

The sad fact is that most people in the DC area are far too busy.  I wish everyone would stop over-committing and slow down a bit.  It would make it easier to establish friendships, I'm sure.

In the meantime, don't take it personally.  Just keep trying.  Good luck.[/quote]

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