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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Excuse me ma’am is considered rude.

Excuse me miss is preferred.

Yes ma’am is not considered rude.[/quote]

Not true for me. I am over 40. Please do not call me “miss” in any situation. It is condescending. [/quote]

I agree, but so [b]many women [/b]have a weird attitude toward aging. My MIL in her mid 60’s is obsessed with aging and trying to look young. Most women like that are fooling no one.[/quote]

And do you know why?  Because at a certain age we are ignored, invisible and dismissed    That's why.  If you are an older man you are "distinguished"  and sir can be used if you are young and old.  I'm not a miss but, I am not a Ma'am.[/quote]

I was "ma'am-ed" in the south as soon as I took a professional position, which was in my 20s. It just meant that I was no longer a young girl. If I'm ignored, invisible, or dismissed, I speak up to make sure that stops.[/quote]

I'm the pp.  You missed my point entirely.  Of course, most women can speak up but, I'm talking about why most women prefer not to be called Ma'am.  And it is because older women in our society are ignored, dismissed and treated as invisible.  And being called Ma'am means you are old and therefore are will be treated as such.  And I am not talking about a personal situation I am talking about our society..

one example although many:  Who makes clothes for older women that are fashionable and with the times  It is all youth oriented.  Now do you get it?[/quote]

No. My point was / is that in the south being called ma'am has very little to do with age and a lot to do with respect.

It's why a lot of black women I grew up around wanted to be called ma'am because their mothers didn't get that respect due to racism.

I'm a middle aged woman who prefers to be called ma'am. It is a sign of respect and politeness to me. [b]Deal with it.[/b] [/quote]

You had me until you said deal with it.  Which I totally disagree!  It is a sign of respect FOR YOU!  NOT FOR ME!  It is disrespectful to call someone something they do not want to be called.  Now I will ask people ( politely) not to call me Ma'am.  Look you had to deal with not being called ma'am and how did it make you feel?  There are plenty of things I have to "deal with" and this is not one of them.  No way, no sir or Ma'am.

YOU DEAL WITH THAT!!!!![/quote]

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