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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not married and have no kids.  I suppose sometimes it's great. Sometimes it's lonely. I don't have many friends, and don't have any good friends, or a best friend.

There's nobody to carry the load. I come home from work and nobody's gotten anything done, nobody ever cooks dinner for me or brings me breakfast in bed.  Any time I start thinking I'm getting sick I need to rush to get supplies before I'm too sick to go out for tissues and ice pops and medicine. I can never ask anyone to buy me tampons. When I wanted to throw out an armchair I had to hire people to carry it out of my apartment and out to the alley. I don't have some husband who can grab a guy friend to do these things.

It's hard to be the third wheel. When my parents come to town and want to go out to dinner with me, my sister and her husband?  We're often sat at a four-top and I'm given a chair at the end of the table. I have to attend weddings by myself. Extended family parties? I'm sat at the very end of the adult table on the border of the kid table. I don't have anyone to go on vacations with. I've literally gotten talked to at work about taking more vacation days. I live in a shitty apartment that I hate and barely feel safe in (rent control) and don't enjoy a "staycation" and don't really have fun traveling alone. If there's a restaurant I  want to try, I have to decide if I'm comfortable going by myself. I don't have an automatic go-to person.

People sometimes assume I'm a lesbian who's not out. I'm not. People try to ask if I am  It's awkward.

There are little things. There's nobody to kill a scary bug. There's nobody to investigate a scary noise. Sometimes I won't go somewhere after work because of how late I'd get home. Nobody ever worries if I make it home at night.  I've put off getting my wisdom teeth out because I'm stressed about taking Uber home alone. If I had a medical emergency at home, it'd be on me to call 911 and unlock my door so they could get in. There's nobody to tell me that my shirt has become so worn that it's see-through (I found out at work from a kind coworker). There's nobody to come to scary doctor appointments with me.

There are financial issues.  I live in a tiny one-bedroom. If I were married I could have the same one-bedroom but a second income to ease the financial bur
den. If I want to buy anything, it's on me. If I want to go on vacation it's all on me. I can only count on my income. [

/I can relate to some of what you are saying, but I think you are wallowing TBH. No one to kill a bug?? Just do it yourself. You have to support yourself: that us called being an adult. Feeling like a 3rd wheel when you are out with your own family?? Your thought patterns are making this much worse than it has to be. Go to a meetup, take a hike, get a volunteer job. You seem to have convinced yourself that all your problems stem from your marital status. Shake that thinking (via therapy if need be). You have a lot of control over your own quality of life!

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