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[quote=Anonymous]This is hard OP, I get it.

But this is your moment to be honest with yourself about what you want, what you will accept, what you are willing to put up with, and what - on the other hand - would actually fulfill your vision of a happy life.

Separate from thinking about him, you need to be clear on what you want out of life.  You need to think not just about short term engagement/marriage - but long term.  Life partner, parenthood, by your side with illness, burying parents, raising kids, struggling w/ big decisions about jobs/houses/relocations, whatever.  All the big stuff - get it sorted in your head as much as possible.

Then tell him your dreams.  Tell him your non-negotiables.

Then ask whether he can envision giving that to you.  And like a PP said - REALLY LISTEN.  Be prepared for his response to be underwhelming - certainly now, and potentially permanently.  Be prepared to put yourself in the long run, ahead of yourself and potential pain in the short term.

Be strong.

Good luck.  No matter what happens you will be ok.[/quote]

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