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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here: We were having a conversation via text this afternoon, and I told him I loved him and was really excited about our future together while wrapping up the conversation. He immediately said he was excited too, and that I was his best life. I quickly followed up with, "Do you think we'll take serious steps this year to get that future?" He didn't respond for an hour. We were bantering back and forth, and then this message silenced him for a solid hour. Maybe he went to the store, maybe he needed to respond to an email. I don't know.

He finally said, "I think we will. We can talk about this more later tonight if you want." [/quote]

If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.

Why do you keep initiating the same exchange, only to get the same (non)-response?  (That's a real question.  Why do you keep doing this?)[/quote]

OP: Is it a non-response?  What should I do instead? Should I say, "No, I want to talk about it now. What are we doing?"[/quote]

You’ve just ignored five pages of really good advice.  You keep begging him to love you.  He responds by loving you just enough to keep you around.  You push, he sort of responds.  Have a conversation with him- tell him where you’re coming from and see where he’s coming from.  Don’t push your wants on him or you will both be very unhappy.  You can’t force someone to love you.  If you try you’re going to end up hurt.  Just talk, see where he is but don’t keep pushing.[/quote]

OP: I haven't ignored it. Honestly. I've read it all in earnest and been very grateful for it. Just keep in mind it's not as easy as one might think to just cold turkey stop loving him and stop seeking a life with him after I've loved him for 2 years. [/quote]

You may love him, but it does not sound like he loves you at all. He's feeding you sweet nothings bc it makes his life easy and he likes having that kind of power. There is someone out there who will love you as you want to be loved and deserved to be loved. This dude ain't it. [/quote]

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