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[quote=Anonymous]While I understand and agree with the spirit of your post, OP, I think you try too hard to narrowly define "being an adult."

My partner is the love of my life and we are certainly "adults" but I don't think he fits these characteristics narrowly defined. If you are going by a general vibe of integrity and maturity, that's one thing, but if you define maturity by these metrics, you may be overlooking some great people.

My partner was not financially stable when we met. He was a scrappy guy in and out of quite a few different jobs and now he has a VERY good job, the culmination of a long and satisfying career.

He wasn't financially irresponsible per se, but he was poor when we met. He took some risks.

He is very messy. We compromise. The bedroom and most of the downstairs are to be kept tidy, but he gets his study which is a mountain of mess. The kitchen sometimes gets dirty when we both are busy. And yes, sometimes he can be a slob. He is overweight and sometimes spills food on his clothes but it's funny and endearing, not gross. He can clean up real well though, and it's sexy when he does.

He is a goofball and a nerd about some things that, while not video games like you reference, could be characteristic of the proverbial "basement dweller" from back in the day. He has a crazy schedule and sometimes isn't reliable to be home or meet me at a certain time, but we make it count when we can get away somewhere together.

So, no. Narrowly defined, he doesn't fit your definition of "ADULT." But if that makes us 60-something year old children, then our youth springs eternal. [/quote]

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