Reply to It’s like I don’t exist other than to hand off DS

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "It’s like I don’t exist other than to hand off DS"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When DH is traveling, I’d be annoyed if she asked me to drive 2 hours to drop off the kids. I work FT, deal with kid’s appointments/activities, and you want me to drop them off? No.[/quote]

This is the issue. To everyone defending the MIL asking because she’s saying “when is it convenient?” there is no good time to add a 2 + hour drive to your list of things to do when you’re taking care if the kids alone. It’s like asking someone “When is a convenient time for you to come over and clean my house?”

[b]Just because you ask politely doesn’t make it any less rude. [/b]

[/quote]
Yes, it absolutely makes it not rude.  You are being idiotic if you admit she's being polite and still call it rude.  And OP is free to say, just as politely, "Unfortunately,  I can't really fit driving there into my schedule.  We can (meet halfway? invite MIL over? Wait until DH gets back? Have DC stay there for the weekend?)

There are a TON of possibilities other than complaining about MIL who is DOING NOTHING WRONG BY LOVING HER GRANDCHILDREN![/quote]

Calm down. -np[/quote]
You’re right. I don’t know why it’s so aggravating to me- I’m not even a grandparent. Maybe because I have sons and I fear one day being in that horrible MIL land where nothing you do is acceptable, even politely asking to see your grandkids. I don’t blame OP for not wanting to drive 2 hours, but I’m dumbfounded where even the polite ask is considered rude.[/quote]

PP “Could you please come over to my house and scrub my toilets? I would appreciate it so much!”

You really don’t understand how you can ask very politely while being very rude?

Come on lady. The MIL knows the DIL is alone taking care of the children while her son travels. Asking the DIL to spend her only free time driving for hours so you can have a visit with your grandchild is tone deaf and RUDE. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics