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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Woman here.  Tell her you will have sex with someone else unless she is willing to have counseling with you.
Isn’t that what you are considering? 
No judgment- just sympathy- good luck.
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Something like this OP, but you have to be willing to go through with it. I went years in a situation just like yours. Was going to stay until the kids grew up and moved out.
You can only live like that for so long. Talking doesn't work or might get you sex for that month. After years I couldn't take it anymore. I finally told her I wanted a divorce. DW was blind sided thinking nothing was wrong in our relationship. I explained to her that having no sex was not an option. I haven't cheated I have no one else lined up, but I refuse to be celibate. The next day after she did some thinking she told me I was right and not to leave, and we started having sex multiple times a week, she even initiates now and our relationship is doing very well[/quote]

+1 
I had an almost identical experience. She suddenly "found" her lost libido upon seeing (figuratively speaking) my "tail lights in the driveway". Over a decade ago, great marriage, sex multiples per week.[/quote]

Just out of curiosity, how did you feel when that happened?  
I had a similar experience with my husband not too long ago.  It wasn’t over sex, but something else.  I went to see a lawyer and put 1/2 of our savings in my name only, and all of a sudden, this thing that had been IMPOSSIBLE for him to do for a decade was just part of our daily lives.  And while I am happy, I can’t help but feel a little resentful about it.  Did you feel the same way?  [/quote]
I was happy that our marriage was saved, and mad at myself for not giving her this ultimatum much sooner. It took 9 sexless months before I came to my senses. I do not resent her: I understand that most women (especially mothers) are simply not that interested in sex most of the time, especially in a secure relationship. I did not take that personally.[/quote]

9 months v “a decade” might account for the difference in PPs’ feelings.[/quote]

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