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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Recently separated 46 year old UMC, post grad educated, white woman. I'd been married for 14 years. I haven't been with another man since before my husband.

My sister says I needed to say fvck it and just into into Tinder to 'get alive again'

First few dates are just really ick because its obvious the guys think it's basically a booty call. That's not my interest at all.

Match with another guy and we actually correspond for a week before meeting. We meet. He's cute-ish, a little short, but he's professional, well spoken and kind so I'm open to meet again.

I suggest Indian. He says he's never had Indian food. I figure he's kidding but he's not so I say how about Pho. He says he doesn't even know what that is. Alarms are going off. How does a 45 year old urban professional not know about Pho or curry? Just for fun I then suggest Banh Mi. Yeah, never heard of that. He's never been out off the country. [b]He doesn't read, never been to a play etc.
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He's incredibly uncultured and its weird given his station.

Would you go out again?[/quote]

A lot of responders are focusing on his food choices. I'm a guy and the bigger red flags [b]to me would be that he doesn't read[/b]. I doubt I would be compatible with someone who doesn't read. But I'm a college professor, in two book clubs, have authored two books, subscribe to NY Times, Washing Post, New Yorker, The Atlantic, etc.
I'm a foodie too, but I'd probably be willing to work around the limited cuisine exposure.
The no reading would likely be a deal breaker for me. [/quote]

I'm sure he reads because he must be literate. I'm sure he reads various things at work. He may not be in some book club and probably isn't reading the latest Opra recommended vampire novel or 50 shades but many professionals are too busy working and simply don't have time bandwidth to "read" in their down time. As for me, I don't "read" either and its in large part to the fact that after 12 hours or reading crap on a computer all day I don't want to (1) touch a computer (2) read another word of anything (3) think about anything of consequence. If that is a red flag so be it.[/quote]

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