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[quote=Anonymous]I have the exact opposite experience, problem or good fortune depending on the reader's perspective.

Ex-DH has four older siblings. The two oldest (who had five kids combined)took advantage of stay-at-home grandmother + work-from-home grandfather in his later years before retirement for free babysitting. I say took advantage because while they would never have complained, I don't know how much they actually loved it because when the last three of their children had kids, they wanted nothing to do with watching them on any regular basis (or even non-regular basis).

They then moved about 3hrs away from all of us about 8 years ago now? They don't ever, ever, ever drive out here for anything for DS. Grandparents Day, performances, sports events, nothing. I'm curious to see if they'll actually drive out for his 6th grade graduation at the end of this school year. They do come out for the approximate once a month family get together/birthday/holiday (whatever falls into that month, all of those months' birthdays etc. for example) but I think it sucks that DS basically sees his grandparents maybe once a month (some of those get togethers may land on my week/weekend and I wouldn't know when the IL family monthly get togethers are happening anymore).

Yes, they're old. Yes, it's a long drive to and fro. MIL has bad knees. I dont expect to see them at every thing or even every-other-thing. One thing in years would be nice though.

That said, the OP situation is just as bad on the opposite side of things. I dont think I'd love house guests multiple times a month for multiple days each visit, that's not a houseguest that's someone who's practically moved in to your house. 
I don't know the details on how much they help around the house, with chores, with groceries, with the kids (and if they do all of those things and more, maybe I'd be slightly less annoyed because they're actually pitching in to be part of your "it takes a village") but still - your immediate family needs family time, too. Days where you can run around to 1,000 sports events or days where you all can actually just loaf around the house together and play board games or something and be a family. That doesn't make you a bad person to want that either OP.
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