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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He'd never, ever, pull the crap that many PPS seems to suggest, that somehow my views are less important than his, or that it is less "my business" than his, about how we spend our marital property.

Sorry but that's not the legal construct! You have no legal obligation to your stepchildren. His income is what determines child support. Trust me, if your marriage ended in divorce and your husband remarried, your views on this would change![/quote]

Actually, other than a parent fulfilling legal obligations, it IS the legal construct.  Every time my husband pays for something for his kids above and beyond what is legally required, that money is coming from our marital property.  Each time my husband, his kids, and our kids go out together, our kids learn from his behavior toward his older kids, and from their conduct as well.  Each time he and his ex-wife have a disagreement, his kids and our kids learn about how families deal with conflict.  My DH and his ex-wife had their chance to have full say over what happened with their kids.  It was a disaster, with blame that can easily be distributed evenly.  Now they don't have that ability, through their own choices.  As for what I would think if we divorced, I would hope that I would try not to take advantage of some other man I marry.  [/quote]

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