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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“Hey babe, I’d like to come down and have some tea in the living room in my PJs after I get the kids to bed and I don’t really like doing that while your mom is here. If you and she are going to hang out past nine could you please find another place to do it?”

I’m not usually a “it’s obvious you hate your MIL” poster but...you sure come off like you hate your MIL.[/quote]

And yet she invites her MIL to her house every week. It sounds like she’s very gracious and MIL/DH take advantage. [/quote]
Actually it sounds like OP is very begrudging and resentful, not gracious at all.[/quote]

This is death by a thousand cuts. They’re being rude and the resentment is building every week. The DH is turning something nice into something unpleasant. Why can’t the DH and grandma just be kind? Or forget that, why can’t they be a little considerate?

It’s really not that hard.[/quote]

Well, it does sound like OP has written her husband a few permission slips along the way, yes? My husband would figure out right damn quick that no, I'm not doing bath and bedtime solo once a week--after preparing a family meal--while he sits and has a long chat.

All that being said, NO ONE is stopping OP from staying upstairs to relax and watch Netflix or do whatev when MIL's still around except for OP.

OP needs to get on the same page with DH aboutnwhat these evenings look like. Right now, the expectations and resentments are all in her own head. How about opening your mouth and communicating with your husband rather than blaming the guest?

And by the way? When I tell my kids to stay upstairs, they stay upstairs. [/quote]

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