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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.[/quote]

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work. [/quote]

Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.

I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.

Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation. [/quote]

It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection. [/quote]

I understood it was special needs. From my experience with our therapists they don’t run sessions over the phone.  So you were literally speaking with doctors for hours over the phone?  Please recommend your doctors since ours only talk at length in session.  Paperwork — I would actually bug your DH to do some of that while waiting at airport or in hotel after work.

I wasn’t trying to be critical; I was sincere that it sounds like you need some self-care. If I wanted to be snarky I would add anger management, dear. [/quote]

Ok. Let’s take today for instance. I call his normal pediatrician and let them know I need a certain record for the dev pediatrician. This is at 9am and after several times contacting with no calls back. They assure me that they have not received the full report I need. I can’t get a call back from the actual OT that came to our house so I go to the staffing company that organizes this, based on the address in their website.  They have moved and it is an empty office in a complex. I then call the main line of staffing and finally get through and the call cuts out. I wait 30 min just to see if they call back. I finally get a call from the out of state main office and they give me the same address that they are no longer at. It was never updated with the new regional office. They insist my normal pedi has the test results. I call back pedi and after waiting on hold and asking them to double check and insist they may have the full report they see they yes they do. Now I will spend another hour going in person to get it because none of them can be relied on to get that to me and I need to sign patient release. Now I need to call insurance and verify that the testing he needs done is covered by insurance. It is supposed to be a 5 day wait since the OT submitted but it has actually been over a month. Well it turns out that OT didn’t submit until Friday and sat on it for that long. So what should have been 5-10 min of time actually does require multiple calls and going over to the physical location. And while in theory it sounds great to bug my DH to do it he doesn’t go to 99 percent of these appointments so he’s not familiar with the multiple providers and information to fill out. [/quote]

Now imagine having to deal with all of that and also pull in a paycheck to help support your family. Get a damn babysitter with all your money and get over yourself. Also, going to the OT staffing address was a complete waste of your time, and I hope you didn't actually do that and are just exaggerating. If its this much work to get a piece of paper from your regular pediatrician you need a new one. Same with your OT. Usually companies that provide the testing with get the authorization for you. You are not being smart with your time which is why you feel like you don't have any. [/quote]

And what does that have to do with it? You’ve managed to turn this into some mommy martyr drama and all I asked is if anyone else was in a similar situation and struggling with this season of parenting and had any advice since going back to work is extremely challenging due to my husbands work travel and no family nearby. Get over yourself. I could say some stuff about my own life right now that would shut you up real fast. There’s more possibilities to issues in life than financial.. you understand that right? It’s not all about money. and I’m sorry you’re not “DC rich” .. you’re bitterness over this is coming through loud and clear. I am so sorry your family needs you to work so you can go on that trip to Europe and pay your fancy gym bill. Life is tough for you, tell me more. It must be hard to go to the office everyday and have to pull in that paycheck and have time from your cushy office to be on an internet forum arguing with someone else to check their privilege. [/quote]

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