Anonymous wrote:So basically OP doesn’t want any suggestions or tips, since she shoots them all down. She just wants to complain and call people names. And yes, I can get to any of our family’s providers in 15 minutes. And they return my calls and fill out paperwork as requested.

I guess we can’t help you OP!

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Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.

Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.

I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.

Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.

It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.

I understood it was special needs. From my experience with our therapists they don’t run sessions over the phone. So you were literally speaking with doctors for hours over the phone? Please recommend your doctors since ours only talk at length in session. Paperwork — I would actually bug your DH to do some of that while waiting at airport or in hotel after work.

I wasn’t trying to be critical; I was sincere that it sounds like you need some self-care. If I wanted to be snarky I would add anger management, dear.

Ok. Let’s take today for instance. I call his normal pediatrician and let them know I need a certain record for the dev pediatrician. This is at 9am and after several times contacting with no calls back. They assure me that they have not received the full report I need. I can’t get a call back from the actual OT that came to our house so I go to the staffing company that organizes this, based on the address in their website. They have moved and it is an empty office in a complex. I then call the main line of staffing and finally get through and the call cuts out. I wait 30 min just to see if they call back. I finally get a call from the out of state main office and they give me the same address that they are no longer at. It was never updated with the new regional office. They insist my normal pedi has the test results. I call back pedi and after waiting on hold and asking them to double check and insist they may have the full report they see they yes they do. Now I will spend another hour going in person to get it because none of them can be relied on to get that to me and I need to sign patient release. Now I need to call insurance and verify that the testing he needs done is covered by insurance. It is supposed to be a 5 day wait since the OT submitted but it has actually been over a month. Well it turns out that OT didn’t submit until Friday and sat on it for that long. So what should have been 5-10 min of time actually does require multiple calls and going over to the physical location. And while in theory it sounds great to bug my DH to do it he doesn’t go to 99 percent of these appointments so he’s not familiar with the multiple providers and information to fill out.

Ok, first order of business is to switch to a different general ped. Aim for one within 10-15 minutes of your house.

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Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.

Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.

I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.

Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.

It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.

I understood it was special needs. From my experience with our therapists they don’t run sessions over the phone. So you were literally speaking with doctors for hours over the phone? Please recommend your doctors since ours only talk at length in session. Paperwork — I would actually bug your DH to do some of that while waiting at airport or in hotel after work.

I wasn’t trying to be critical; I was sincere that it sounds like you need some self-care. If I wanted to be snarky I would add anger management, dear.

Ok. Let’s take today for instance. I call his normal pediatrician and let them know I need a certain record for the dev pediatrician. This is at 9am and after several times contacting with no calls back. They assure me that they have not received the full report I need. I can’t get a call back from the actual OT that came to our house so I go to the staffing company that organizes this, based on the address in their website. They have moved and it is an empty office in a complex. I then call the main line of staffing and finally get through and the call cuts out. I wait 30 min just to see if they call back. I finally get a call from the out of state main office and they give me the same address that they are no longer at. It was never updated with the new regional office. They insist my normal pedi has the test results. I call back pedi and after waiting on hold and asking them to double check and insist they may have the full report they see they yes they do. Now I will spend another hour going in person to get it because none of them can be relied on to get that to me and I need to sign patient release. Now I need to call insurance and verify that the testing he needs done is covered by insurance. It is supposed to be a 5 day wait since the OT submitted but it has actually been over a month. Well it turns out that OT didn’t submit until Friday and sat on it for that long. So what should have been 5-10 min of time actually does require multiple calls and going over to the physical location. And while in theory it sounds great to bug my DH to do it he doesn’t go to 99 percent of these appointments so he’s not familiar with the multiple providers and information to fill out.

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Anonymous wrote:I use marijuana at the end of the day to cope. You can try CBD but that didn't do it for me. I'm also about to join the Y because it's the closest gym with chid care. I'll be like that mom above and sit in the sauna for as long as they'll allow it.

Mine are 4 and 2 and I feel ya. I can also relate to the feeling of other moms having an easier time of it. I talk a lot about the importance of mental health and meditation/taking breaks. My 4 year old will ask me, "mom, do you need a break?" and I'll thank her and she'll play quietly with her sister for a bit.

You really should see a therapist and get proper meds, marijuana around kids sounds dicey.

I’m guessing you don’t have much money, but why not go back to work and hire sitter? If your kids drive you to toking up and your 4 year already sense you don’t want to be around her, not sure why you make all suffer.

Well, you would be very wrong. Sounds like you don't know anything about medical marijuana. Do you have wine or beer at your house? Sounds dicey. Liquor? Call the cops!

I don't drink. HHI is 300k. Anything else you want to blindly judge an internet stranger about, or are you all set for the day?

Medical marijuana is not prescribed for depression or anxiety; generally for pain management— so unless you are leaving out details you are mis medicated. And smoking anything introduces it into your child’s environment, unless you are carefully showering and laundering after every toke

As for the income, I just assumed that since your solution to having a babysitter was to hide out in the Y, which is one of the cheaper gyms. If you have plenty of money, what the f are you doing.

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Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.

Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.

I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.

Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.

It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.

I understood it was special needs. From my experience with our therapists they don’t run sessions over the phone. So you were literally speaking with doctors for hours over the phone? Please recommend your doctors since ours only talk at length in session. Paperwork — I would actually bug your DH to do some of that while waiting at airport or in hotel after work.

I wasn’t trying to be critical; I was sincere that it sounds like you need some self-care. If I wanted to be snarky I would add anger management, dear.

Ok. Let’s take today for instance. I call his normal pediatrician and let them know I need a certain record for the dev pediatrician. This is at 9am and after several times contacting with no calls back. They assure me that they have not received the full report I need. I can’t get a call back from the actual OT that came to our house so I go to the staffing company that organizes this, based on the address in their website. They have moved and it is an empty office in a complex. I then call the main line of staffing and finally get through and the call cuts out. I wait 30 min just to see if they call back. I finally get a call from the out of state main office and they give me the same address that they are no longer at. It was never updated with the new regional office. They insist my normal pedi has the test results. I call back pedi and after waiting on hold and asking them to double check and insist they may have the full report they see they yes they do. Now I will spend another hour going in person to get it because none of them can be relied on to get that to me and I need to sign patient release. Now I need to call insurance and verify that the testing he needs done is covered by insurance. It is supposed to be a 5 day wait since the OT submitted but it has actually been over a month. Well it turns out that OT didn’t submit until Friday and sat on it for that long. So what should have been 5-10 min of time actually does require multiple calls and going over to the physical location. And while in theory it sounds great to bug my DH to do it he doesn’t go to 99 percent of these appointments so he’s not familiar with the multiple providers and information to fill out.

Now imagine having to deal with all of that and also pull in a paycheck to help support your family. Get a damn babysitter with all your money and get over yourself. Also, going to the OT staffing address was a complete waste of your time, and I hope you didn't actually do that and are just exaggerating. If its this much work to get a piece of paper from your regular pediatrician you need a new one. Same with your OT. Usually companies that provide the testing with get the authorization for you. You are not being smart with your time which is why you feel like you don't have any.

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Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.

Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.

I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.

Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.

It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.

I understood it was special needs. From my experience with our therapists they don’t run sessions over the phone. So you were literally speaking with doctors for hours over the phone? Please recommend your doctors since ours only talk at length in session. Paperwork — I would actually bug your DH to do some of that while waiting at airport or in hotel after work.

I wasn’t trying to be critical; I was sincere that it sounds like you need some self-care. If I wanted to be snarky I would add anger management, dear.

Ok. Let’s take today for instance. I call his normal pediatrician and let them know I need a certain record for the dev pediatrician. This is at 9am and after several times contacting with no calls back. They assure me that they have not received the full report I need. I can’t get a call back from the actual OT that came to our house so I go to the staffing company that organizes this, based on the address in their website. They have moved and it is an empty office in a complex. I then call the main line of staffing and finally get through and the call cuts out. I wait 30 min just to see if they call back. I finally get a call from the out of state main office and they give me the same address that they are no longer at. It was never updated with the new regional office. They insist my normal pedi has the test results. I call back pedi and after waiting on hold and asking them to double check and insist they may have the full report they see they yes they do. Now I will spend another hour going in person to get it because none of them can be relied on to get that to me and I need to sign patient release. Now I need to call insurance and verify that the testing he needs done is covered by insurance. It is supposed to be a 5 day wait since the OT submitted but it has actually been over a month. Well it turns out that OT didn’t submit until Friday and sat on it for that long. So what should have been 5-10 min of time actually does require multiple calls and going over to the physical location. And while in theory it sounds great to bug my DH to do it he doesn’t go to 99 percent of these appointments so he’s not familiar with the multiple providers and information to fill out.

Now imagine having to deal with all of that and also pull in a paycheck to help support your family. Get a damn babysitter with all your money and get over yourself. Also, going to the OT staffing address was a complete waste of your time, and I hope you didn't actually do that and are just exaggerating. If its this much work to get a piece of paper from your regular pediatrician you need a new one. Same with your OT. Usually companies that provide the testing with get the authorization for you. You are not being smart with your time which is why you feel like you don't have any.

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Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.

Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.

I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.

Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.

It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.

I understood it was special needs. From my experience with our therapists they don’t run sessions over the phone. So you were literally speaking with doctors for hours over the phone? Please recommend your doctors since ours only talk at length in session. Paperwork — I would actually bug your DH to do some of that while waiting at airport or in hotel after work.

I wasn’t trying to be critical; I was sincere that it sounds like you need some self-care. If I wanted to be snarky I would add anger management, dear.

Ok. Let’s take today for instance. I call his normal pediatrician and let them know I need a certain record for the dev pediatrician. This is at 9am and after several times contacting with no calls back. They assure me that they have not received the full report I need. I can’t get a call back from the actual OT that came to our house so I go to the staffing company that organizes this, based on the address in their website. They have moved and it is an empty office in a complex. I then call the main line of staffing and finally get through and the call cuts out. I wait 30 min just to see if they call back. I finally get a call from the out of state main office and they give me the same address that they are no longer at. It was never updated with the new regional office. They insist my normal pedi has the test results. I call back pedi and after waiting on hold and asking them to double check and insist they may have the full report they see they yes they do. Now I will spend another hour going in person to get it because none of them can be relied on to get that to me and I need to sign patient release. Now I need to call insurance and verify that the testing he needs done is covered by insurance. It is supposed to be a 5 day wait since the OT submitted but it has actually been over a month. Well it turns out that OT didn’t submit until Friday and sat on it for that long. So what should have been 5-10 min of time actually does require multiple calls and going over to the physical location. And while in theory it sounds great to bug my DH to do it he doesn’t go to 99 percent of these appointments so he’s not familiar with the multiple providers and information to fill out.

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Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.

Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.

I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.

Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.

It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.

Not the PP, but I think part of your issue is that you can't even see your own privilege. You don't need to work outside of the home, you have a comfortable income, and have at least some preschool hours for both of your children. Many many women do not have any of these. Please count your blessings. No one is forcing you to be a stay at home mom. And please do not get pregnant!

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Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.

Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.

I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.

Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.

It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.

I understood it was special needs. From my experience with our therapists they don’t run sessions over the phone. So you were literally speaking with doctors for hours over the phone? Please recommend your doctors since ours only talk at length in session. Paperwork — I would actually bug your DH to do some of that while waiting at airport or in hotel after work.

I wasn’t trying to be critical; I was sincere that it sounds like you need some self-care. If I wanted to be snarky I would add anger management, dear.