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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My issue is that my inlaws won't tell us when they're leaving or coming. Petty and minor I'm sure. Inlaws tell us "we're coming the weekend of the 16th!" and then no more information is forthcoming. I make sure to have an extra special dinner on Friday just in case they decide to come. I also  cancel my weekend plans with friends. Nope. Not that night. DH calls them and they say they're coming on Saturday. We sit around all day. I make an extra special dinner because "they're coming for dinner." I have a 2 and a 4 year old who go to sleep at 7, so we eat at 6ish. Inlaws FINALLY show up at 10pm and want dinner. I think they expected us to wait and eat with them. The next day we do a morning activity and then I come home and put the kids down for their nap at noon so I can get started on a nice lunch. NOPE Inlaws are standing in my entry with their luggage saying goodbye. My oldest was extremely upset that his grandparents left while he napped and cried about how he didn't get to say goodbye. WTF I couldn't believe they spent like 4 hours with my kids.

Take 2: Inlaws are coming for my son's 4th birthday party.They wanted to make sure they weren't early, so they didn't get in Friday night. We had our family celebration with my family and his family Friday night with cake and gifts and Saturday was the friend's party. Saturday morning they call us when they're leaving, except they're 4 hours away and the party was starting in 2 hours. They missed the entire birthday party. And then they left that night without staying, even though I washed the guest room sheets and cleaned the guest bath.

I feel so damn disrespected every single time they blow us off. Their visits are like a hit and run. I clean and cook and plan fun activities with the kids and they don't show. I told DH if he ever lets them walk all over me again I was going to leave him. The last time during the birthday party I know DH tried to get times/dates out of them. [/quote]

You're a doormat and a martyr; of course you're not respected.

Know what would happen if someone showed up unexpectedly on my doorstep? "Hello, here are directions to the Hampton Inn." Literally no one crosses my threshold overnight without a firm, communicated, set-in-stone plan. You let this slide again and again, and they keep doing the same thing because you wrote a permission slip. [/quote]

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