Anonymous wrote:First time I visited my IL’s their damn cat pissed all over my clothes in my suitcase.

Anonymous wrote:My issue is that my inlaws won't tell us when they're leaving or coming. Petty and minor I'm sure. Inlaws tell us "we're coming the weekend of the 16th!" and then no more information is forthcoming. I make sure to have an extra special dinner on Friday just in case they decide to come. I also cancel my weekend plans with friends. Nope. Not that night. DH calls them and they say they're coming on Saturday. We sit around all day. I make an extra special dinner because "they're coming for dinner." I have a 2 and a 4 year old who go to sleep at 7, so we eat at 6ish. Inlaws FINALLY show up at 10pm and want dinner. I think they expected us to wait and eat with them. The next day we do a morning activity and then I come home and put the kids down for their nap at noon so I can get started on a nice lunch. NOPE Inlaws are standing in my entry with their luggage saying goodbye. My oldest was extremely upset that his grandparents left while he napped and cried about how he didn't get to say goodbye. WTF I couldn't believe they spent like 4 hours with my kids.

Take 2: Inlaws are coming for my son's 4th birthday party.They wanted to make sure they weren't early, so they didn't get in Friday night. We had our family celebration with my family and his family Friday night with cake and gifts and Saturday was the friend's party. Saturday morning they call us when they're leaving, except they're 4 hours away and the party was starting in 2 hours. They missed the entire birthday party. And then they left that night without staying, even though I washed the guest room sheets and cleaned the guest bath.

I feel so damn disrespected every single time they blow us off. Their visits are like a hit and run. I clean and cook and plan fun activities with the kids and they don't show. I told DH if he ever lets them walk all over me again I was going to leave him. The last time during the birthday party I know DH tried to get times/dates out of them.

Anonymous wrote:A rehearsal dinner scrapbook? Dafuq?

Between that and no paragraph breaks, done with you. Team SIL.

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Anonymous wrote:this is less a visit more of an event but def involves an IL. SIL and I get along relatively okay now, but was definitely rocky leading up to our wedding as well as a few years following it. She has a hard time not being the center of attention. She is fairly charismatic, so that's understandable, but not so charismatic that folks only want to hear her voice.

So SIL threw a fit that we would not have her just 2 y.o. daughter as the flower girl @ our wedding. Since the daughter would probably need to have an adult guiding her, I told DH I just lacked confidence that SIL would know when/how to step back for our day, especially as she was also pregnant and could not have any conversation without talking about her pregnancy. He agreed - probably relieved - as it is not as if he is unaware of her traits. The day before the wedding, she insisted on joining us for the onsite meeting then told me that she and her brother could take care of it and that I should figure out how to spruce up the restrooms in the inn. Later that night she was responsible for the scrap books at the rehearsal dinner, but pawned that off on one of DH's friends and her husband - someone they both knew - because she wanted to enjoy herself at the dinner (no surprise, but there are no scrap books from the dinner b/c who is going to do that job when asked at 11th hour). Immediately preceding the ceremony, she made a slight scene involving her daughter and it was all I could do to just stand there and smile. At the end of the evening, when saying good bye to our guests, she came over and admonished me for not sufficiently thanking the couple responsible for the scrap books as if I had even had a conversation with them about it - I had only found out after the dinner. The following morning, she kept insisting that she be allowed into the restroom ahead of other guests as she was, after all, pregnant (five months, but one would have thought she was due the next day). And after we departed on our honeymoon, she repacked the box with my wedding dress, placing it on the bottom after finding it on the top, then set many heavy objects on it and damaging the fabric. Her behavior was bad enough that when we returned from our honeymoon that both of my parents - never ones to comment on such stuff, my siblings, and a few close friends asked WTH was up with her. I hadn't said anything, she was just so rude towards my family and my friends picked up on her M.O. Was bad for a few more years, then I think she just either grew tired of that drama or just grew up a bit. I really hope my children never end up behaving that way towards a new family member.

What is a rehearsal dinner scrap book? Do you do this during the dinner? Is it taking snapshots? I wouldn't want to do this either.

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Anonymous wrote:My BIL came to visit. He left open his profile page on smalld$ck magazine. The page had his fantasies. I won’t repeat them. I’ve never told my wife to protect her but I want to vomit every time I see the guy.

DISH IT! Tell us details! You are nice for not telling him to remember to log off and close the browser.

Anonymous wrote:My BIL came to visit. He left open his profile page on smalld$ck magazine. The page had his fantasies. I won’t repeat them. I’ve never told my wife to protect her but I want to vomit every time I see the guy.

Anonymous wrote:this is less a visit more of an event but def involves an IL. SIL and I get along relatively okay now, but was definitely rocky leading up to our wedding as well as a few years following it. She has a hard time not being the center of attention. She is fairly charismatic, so that's understandable, but not so charismatic that folks only want to hear her voice.

So SIL threw a fit that we would not have her just 2 y.o. daughter as the flower girl @ our wedding. Since the daughter would probably need to have an adult guiding her, I told DH I just lacked confidence that SIL would know when/how to step back for our day, especially as she was also pregnant and could not have any conversation without talking about her pregnancy. He agreed - probably relieved - as it is not as if he is unaware of her traits. The day before the wedding, she insisted on joining us for the onsite meeting then told me that she and her brother could take care of it and that I should figure out how to spruce up the restrooms in the inn. Later that night she was responsible for the scrap books at the rehearsal dinner, but pawned that off on one of DH's friends and her husband - someone they both knew - because she wanted to enjoy herself at the dinner (no surprise, but there are no scrap books from the dinner b/c who is going to do that job when asked at 11th hour). Immediately preceding the ceremony, she made a slight scene involving her daughter and it was all I could do to just stand there and smile. At the end of the evening, when saying good bye to our guests, she came over and admonished me for not sufficiently thanking the couple responsible for the scrap books as if I had even had a conversation with them about it - I had only found out after the dinner. The following morning, she kept insisting that she be allowed into the restroom ahead of other guests as she was, after all, pregnant (five months, but one would have thought she was due the next day). And after we departed on our honeymoon, she repacked the box with my wedding dress, placing it on the bottom after finding it on the top, then set many heavy objects on it and damaging the fabric. Her behavior was bad enough that when we returned from our honeymoon that both of my parents - never ones to comment on such stuff, my siblings, and a few close friends asked WTH was up with her. I hadn't said anything, she was just so rude towards my family and my friends picked up on her M.O. Was bad for a few more years, then I think she just either grew tired of that drama or just grew up a bit. I really hope my children never end up behaving that way towards a new family member.

Anonymous wrote:My issue is that my inlaws won't tell us when they're leaving or coming. Petty and minor I'm sure. Inlaws tell us "we're coming the weekend of the 16th!" and then no more information is forthcoming. I make sure to have an extra special dinner on Friday just in case they decide to come. I also cancel my weekend plans with friends. Nope. Not that night. DH calls them and they say they're coming on Saturday. We sit around all day. I make an extra special dinner because "they're coming for dinner." I have a 2 and a 4 year old who go to sleep at 7, so we eat at 6ish. Inlaws FINALLY show up at 10pm and want dinner. I think they expected us to wait and eat with them. The next day we do a morning activity and then I come home and put the kids down for their nap at noon so I can get started on a nice lunch. NOPE Inlaws are standing in my entry with their luggage saying goodbye. My oldest was extremely upset that his grandparents left while he napped and cried about how he didn't get to say goodbye. WTF I couldn't believe they spent like 4 hours with my kids.

Take 2: Inlaws are coming for my son's 4th birthday party.They wanted to make sure they weren't early, so they didn't get in Friday night. We had our family celebration with my family and his family Friday night with cake and gifts and Saturday was the friend's party. Saturday morning they call us when they're leaving, except they're 4 hours away and the party was starting in 2 hours. They missed the entire birthday party. And then they left that night without staying, even though I washed the guest room sheets and cleaned the guest bath.

I feel so damn disrespected every single time they blow us off. Their visits are like a hit and run. I clean and cook and plan fun activities with the kids and they don't show. I told DH if he ever lets them walk all over me again I was going to leave him. The last time during the birthday party I know DH tried to get times/dates out of them.

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs are nice and we get along, but they are hoverers/pouncers. They are literally on top of us all the time during visits, to the point where I've accidentally stepped on my MIL's foot when I was emptying the dishwasher and she was right.there.

The last time we went to the beach with them, I was low-key complaining about it to my husband, who was like, "Eh, they're not THAT ba--AUGH!"

He stopped becasue we were driving at night, approaching the beach house, making the turn into the driveway, and his parents were standing there in pitch-black, their eyes and glasses reflecting in the light. It was like a freaking horror movie. We started dying laughing and my husband was like, "Yeah...they're weird."

Did it ever occur to you that they were just waiting to greet you and make you feel welcome? My family does this all the time. It is considered good manners. Apparently, you need some lessons in how to make guests feel welcome!