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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]14 years married, together 15. Have not cheated but fantasize about it. Wife lost sex drive after kids 7 years ago. She never initiates, [b]once went 14 months without sex and didn't know,[/b] and could easily go as long again if I didn't provoke. Yes, I've brought it up. At this point I'm proud I haven't despite a couple of offers. But our marriage is 50/50, and [b]I would enjoy telling the next partner I am faithful[/b] so I probably won't. I don't think marriage means you can make another celibate against his will if he is otherwise a good (great) partner. [/quote]

14 months!?! I feel bad if we go more than a week and I KNOW DH feels like we don’t do it enough. How do people live like that?[/quote]

I doubt the ones who are fun in bed would care. 14 months is nuts. [/quote]

It's incredibly painful when the sexual part of a marriage breaks and unfortunately there is not always an answer.

I love sex and I've always been happy to do the things that please a partner. I'm pretty easy to please sexually too.

My husband is the lower-drive party in our marriage. I thought we had a good sex life though.

Then he started to completely deny me sex or any kind of physical intimacy for stretches of a few weeks to a few months. Sometimes hed claim illnesses that seemed more like hypochondria or at least unrelated to sex. Like he sprained his toe and that ended our sex life for a month.

First time I begged and then grieved and then we got it back. Later times we fought.  I reached the point where I was so hurt I had a husband who would reject me a lot, I really turned off of him. It felt necessary to my sanity and survival to stop desiring him.

This caused problems eventually when he came out of one of his long-term sex strikes and wanted me, and my desire wasn't there. He'd spent years training me not to expect sex and then wanted it, and I just didn't have the will. I tried some, but it wasn't great. And then he lost interest again and has been in a series of minor physical ailments that take all his for over three years now.

It's been like psychological torture, honestly. But I'm not telling my kids they have to live in two houses because daddy wouldn't out.

It truly sucks though.[/quote]

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