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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I remember the first time we went out to eat after my oldest left for college. I didn’t cry.  But it was a really sad feeling. Of course we had eaten out without him many times. But asking for a table for six instead of seven felt so strange because he wasn’t out with friends.  He was no longer living with us.  For months I caught myself accident setting too many places at our table after each kid left.

It’s hard, my friends.  [/quote]

I'm 54 and the youngest of three.  A few weeks ago when we were home for my father's funeral, my mother recalled for the umpteenth time how they felt the day they dropped off for college in 1983.  They were sad and after they dropped me and my things off, they left.  After a couple of blocks they were worried I was not going to make friends, so they circled the block and pulled back up to a space where they could see the courtyard in front of my dorm.  They saw me standing there in a group of several other kids and I was happily making new friends.  They felt so relieved but melancholy and drove off.  Mom said that they had a hard time going home alone just the two of them.  I can imagine that going to dinner that evening on the way home was going to be hard.

The big difference was that my mom didn't make a huge deal about her loss.  She didn't blog about it and broadcast it to the world.  But it did become a staple of family story sharing over the last 36 years.  And it was one of her cherished memories that she told the day we laid my father to rest.

It's a hard and emotional situation, but a personal one.  The only thing unusual was not that the Red Robin mom felt this way, but that she turned it into a huge life-changing moment that had to be blogged about.  She blew it out of proportion.  That doesn't mean that it isn't a hard and emotional situation to deal with; especially for the first and the last child.  It's hard for all of your children, but for the first one, it's the first time you have to deal with it.  For the last one, it truly signals the empty nest.[/quote]

Huh?

This mom wrote one blog post and that’s making it a big deal, but your mom telling the story over and over again for 36 years, including at an important family event is not making it a big deal?[/quote]

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