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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]P.S. other cultures aren’t as touchy as us about these things and have different standards. So if the woman was not an American, that’s something else to consider. [/quote]

I’ve worked as a midwife all over the world. Women do grieve baby losses.  They are just silenced.  And they tell me [/quote]

I’m the poster you quoted. That’s not what I meant. What I meant was, there are different norms in other cultures with respect to the idea of approaching a stranger and commenting on what you assume is her pregnancy. I could see what happened to the OP happening to me in my husband’s home country. There are just different ideas about what is acceptable. [/quote]

Which America are you referring to? Because in Latin America where I work as a midwife this would not be ok. In the United States, also. Otvok[/quote]

I'm the poster of the original quote. I did not/am not referring to any particular America. I am just saying that perhaps in other cultures, what the woman did would not be considered so outrageous. In my husband's country (which I don't feel like comfortable naming, and it isn't germane anyway), I could totally see someone doing this, and people (in general) would not be aghast. Other countries aren't as hyperaware about and sensitive to things like this as we are here in the U.S.

I remember when my firstborn was a baby, in my husband's country, a stranger approached us on the street smiling broadly and cooing at my baby and actually took her from my arms and lifted her up in the air in delight. He gave her right back, but I was horrified (and I froze in disbelief, it just happened so fast, I didn't react, I was unsure about what to do) but my DH and in-laws were all looking on and smiling, as if it were not a big deal that this strange man was so admiring of my baby and had actually just come up to us and taken her out of my arms (without asking!) for a moment. That would (almost) never happen in the U.S.

I'm just saying, the lady in the OP's example had good and innocent intentions, even if what she said was dumb. And I think that we should cut people slack in those situations, moreso if they're from a different culture and/or a different generation. I would sure want someone to do the same for me. Lord knows I've unknowingly offended people tons of times, despite my best intentions. We all have, as a previous poster said.[/quote]

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