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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Learn  Cantonese. It will benefit your kids. My husband and I speak Spanish. When we have family gatherings with my parents, brother and his wife (who doesn't speak Spanish) it is annoying to have to switch back to Spanish. I want my kids to hear and speak Spanish. Certain words and conversations work out better in Spanish. We tend to go back and forth between languages depending on the topic. [/quote]

Agreed. Don’t make your husband and parents give up the natural communication they have. You are being selfish. My husband did this and it made the few gatherings I had with my family so uncomfortable and forced, and it made it hard for our kids to learn the language. Eventually I just tried to see my family without DH as often as I could. [/quote]
Good god people! Are you all drunk tonight?! Imagine if I spoke my language only with my kids when my English speaking ILS are here for a week? Totally not engaging them, unless they ask me a direct question?! Sober up people, it doesn't sound like OP lives in China![/quote]

Apparently hosting people doesn't matter in this thread, having people to your house for dinner as guests and then totally excluding them is now considered perfectly fine hosting manners.  Wow is all I can say.  I couldn't ever in my life imagine inviting someone to dinner and then speaking in another language so they sit there all night excluded and confused.

I also got DH to translate but if you've ever tried that and had a three way conversation you will soon find out it's hard.

Eventually it worked in my favour.  I stopped wanting to interact with MIL and was so happy the language problem existed.  I could see her and ignore her.  Now all these years later she speaks English in my presence, she could do it all along, she chose not to.  It's a little late for me, I keep her at a distance.[/quote]

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