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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Unless you talked about this and previously arranged how the responsibilities would be divided, it is assumed mothers are responsible for a much larger chuck of care for newborn babies.  I’m presuming you are off work on maternity leave, he isn’t.  The baby is you job right now.  [/b]

Does your baby not nap and can’t be put down?  Is he colicy? You are making it sound like someone needs to be holding him 24/7.  I had two babies like this, so i don’t ask this in a snarky way and it is a phase that passes.

Put the baby in a swing, wear him in an ergo, put him on a sheepskin rug..those things should free up your arms so you can get some things done.

If you are borderline nervous breakdown, talk to him and explain what help you need to not go crazy.  Encourage DH to wear the baby in a carrier and go for walks with him. [/quote]

Unless you talked about this and previously arranged how the responsibilities would be divided, it is assumed that fathers and mothers are responsible for equal amounts of the care of newborn babies.  I'm presuming he has paternity leave as well.  When is he taking his leave? The baby is both of your jobs equally right now, because both of you made it.

There, FTFY, PP.  BTW, PP, you are a self-righteous sexist prig.  Women are not primarily responsible for newborns.  You demonstrate exactly the kind of sexist world view that puts women behind in life.

A woman who is staying home and taking care of the baby all day is doing a job.  Her job ends when her husband's job ends and it is entirely reasonable to expect that DH participate equally in the care of baby when he gets home.  I am assuming, like many SAHM's she is also doing some other household chores like laundry, grocery shopping and meal prep, while she is home with baby.  These also are equally DH's responsibility.

I am tired of men who steal the labor of women and without recompense and expect that their time is fully their own, even when they have brought other people into the world. 
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Preach! Why on earth would the baby be only the mother’s responsibility? What is wrong with you PP? I hope you don’t have children because this isn’t the goddamn 1950s[/quote]

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