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Thanks for confirming that you've never cared for an 8 week old. Here's the thing: the office  IS the break from the baby. When they're both home, it's all hands on deck.

If you feel it's unfair that he works all day and then has to care for his baby, I don't know what to tell you. Except that working while pregnant isn't such a piece of cake either. Not to mention giving birth.[/quote]

I have had children and given birth.  I simply don’t think staying home with a newborn is that hard.  Obviously it is for OP.  I’m not saying her spouse shouldn’t care for the baby at night.  Instead I understand why he needs a break before being on baby duty.

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As the above poster said ... work IS the break from the baby! I went to work to RELAX and talk with ADULTS. I only worked part time when my children were little, but work was the easiest part of my day. The childcare was the hardest part by far.

Luckily, I had a spouse who came home and really wanted to cuddle and talk to the babies or make dinner or basically do anything our family needed. He wasn't "helping" me. He was parenting.

I did all overnight changings and feedings because I was the milk machine. No need for both of us to get up. And that was difficult, even when not back at work, because you aren't sleeping.

OP should start taking time away and leaving baby with husband for EXTENDED periods of time. Get the baby used to a bottle (or at this point the baby might not take it) so you can get away for more than just a couple of hours. Or, just take a couple of hours to yourself every night to take a walk, go to the gym, visit friends. Whatever you need. [/quote]

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