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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks to the people who tried to talk me down. I just can't imagine going to a school like this. Shirts are required to be tucked in? I'm pretty overweight, so that's very unflattering for me, and I can only think of how I'd feel if I had those restrictions. It sucks that the rules will end up creating more bullying, but what do I know about raising kids? I know she'll probably be just fine, but I wouldn't be in her situation, and even being on the sidelines is very stressful and worrying. I'm just not to used to rules anymore.[/quote]

OP this was very telling, plus a few other hints along the way. I'm not going to psycho babble since I'm not qualified and you already know your issues. That being said, we're all in some way at various degrees of anxiety etc, everyday.

You're projecting you're own insecurity onto your child. Being a military family has maybe been a trigger for you. You chose this school but you have free choice to change your mind and another school. But hear me out, we're a society of rules and you negotiate them every day! You work, support a military husband, care for your kids etc. You're already doing 90% of a rule following life! Rules at school are always negotiable.

Schedule an appoint with the school counselor to explain base lockdown and the average number of times it's expected. Lateness will be excused guaranteed. This school is close to base, they're already aware of this. Uniform-you will be so glad that there's a uniform, especially as your daughter gets older. No battles about what to wear. She'll have a choice from a small selection (short sleeve vs long sleeve, shorts vs skirt). Take her for a Saturday of fun to pick out a belt. If the school outsources uniform selection to a specific sore or website, sit with her and select what she likes. There are choices. There are great elastic belts that are not stiff and don't have annoying buckles that dig in. Just find an option she can live with.

Figure out your mornings to include extra time and breakfast plan (premade muffins,mini breakfast quiches, smoothie). Get your husband involved in being excited too. Visit the school ove the next few weeks. Drive or walk the route to school. Do they have an open house or welcome event? If so, go.

The biggest thing that jumps out for me is this, your baby is starting kindergarten. Could this be part of the tears? It's understandable and overwhelming. You have lots of firsts ahead of you. I'm grappling with my teen entering junior year of HS. College in a short time. Tests and more tests, hanging out with new friends, going to driver's ed, enforcing the "rules" so he's safe and not drinking or having ( thankfully he's not). 
I'd love to go back to more carefree days with him. But everything happens gradually and becomes familiar. Rules are fair for the most part. You'll need to embrace them because you'll need an arsenal when she is in middle school and high school.

Little steps now. Tackle whatever it is that your DD needs to ease into K. A happy mom is a good start. Dad joining in to get her excited to visit her new school, go for ice cream and a new belt may be all you need for now. Good luck to you and her! It will all be ok, promise! 
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I actually talked to admissions about this, and they just told me to make it work. The school isn't near the base - it's actually in a different town, 35 minutes away. It was hte closest private school, though.

Not upset about her starting K. Just upset I have so many rules to comply with all of a sudden. Even DH doesn't have a set time to be at work! We'll make it work, but it's stressful.[/quote]

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