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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I don't know if this is the case but it seems like you used to go to a very strict school perhaps in different country and it seems that you were subjected to almost military rules there. No idea, maybe I am wrong but if I am right then again,
you are not doing a favor your child or  yourself by stressing so much. Whatever happened to you in the past it is something you can not and should not project on your child or the school he goes to. 
You need to do this:
Take one day at the time. Deal with issues at hand, repeat. One day will bring just enough to deal with it in one day I promise you. Nobody here would send kids to school if it was so traumatic on regular basis. Uniform or not..
you need to understand one thing, your child is NOT the first child send to that school, NOT The only child and they did not start business yesterday. They have BEEN through everything you can think of and can not, they have SEEEN it all including parents like you, they have dealt with EVERY possible problem a parent or a child can bring, create or invent
and so they will know how to handle your child. YOU need to learn how to blend into the system and let your kid to do the same. You are not doing it alone, there are all other parents just like you, most of them sending second or third kid to the same school and the kids did okay if they go back.
Yes, you can not bet here to help kid with a belt or a potty or what you have, but the teachers do realize that a  5 year old is not a  10 year old.
Here are problems that kids that age often have in every single class: their shoes get undone, sometimes they pee or have diarrhea, so the teachers have extra clothes and also you send extra too with kid, some kids will  need help with
flushing toilet, others with washing hands, all if not then most will need help in cafeteria with straws on their juice boxes, people are there to help they deal with it all the time.. it is normal to them because this is what they do there. This is what they do all day, every day.
Every Kindergarten class is the same, different faces the same problems,... this is that year when kids form every different family with every different level of maturity and skills and independence level have to level, to catch up and to
get up to the speed so they can enter the first grade on the same page. Nobody is freaking out about this because
it is natural process.

You do what you need to do if  you are stressing and obsessing over the being late part, just leave 15 minutes or so earlier to allow for unexpected traffic or so and  you will be fine. Occassional late means nothing, he still will get to Harvard even if he will have  10 lates in a month in Kindergarten or if misses 30 days of the school year. I  know tons of kids who did that and yet they are in the top magnet schools. Truth is that most gifted kids actually have more probem with those little thigs then the rest of the group hahahah so you are fine. The teachers are there to  help not to
punish left right and center. Little discipline will be there NOT to scare your kids but to simply mold them into 
school rules that are not the end of the world.

Hugs.[/quote]

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