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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]...how do you deal with reliving them when your children hit kindergarten?

I know this sounds crazy, but I wasn't a happy person until college. I hate being at someone's beck and call, I hated all the rules, I just hated it. I followed the rules, each and every one, but I was miserable doing it. I loved the freedom that college and a professional job provided. Show up two minutes later because of traffic? No big deal! Strep throat? Take the day off and sleep!

My my oldest is starting K, and I'm dreading everything about it. I don't know how to get her to school on time, because there are so many variables. And yes, I'm the person always 10 minutes early for everything, but when you introduce a child into the mix, well, I can't 100% control another person. She's already complaining about the dress code, and I'm in tears almost every night thinking of the phone calls I'm going to get. I suppose I had forgotten that schools has such a strict attendance policy, and you can be kicked out for a certain number of [i]excused [/i]absences (a really low number). It's honestly like going through my childhood years all over again.

Anyway, that's it. Just pure dread. Was anyone happy as an adult, then had to face childhood issues again once their kids grew up? How do you deal with it?[/quote]

Dear OP, your child is not just you, it is both of you parents. He is equipped differently to handle the life then you, he is also going to be in a different school, different times, with different children and he needs to find his way around. You are stressing because you love your child to pieces and at the end, regardless of how much you stress, the outcome will be the same. One year form now he will be seasoned scholar proud that he can find his way around the school, going into first grade, will have some new friends, will have so many memories, first  yearbook, his b. party at school and many more exciting step by step events through the year to keep him and you busy and not stressing so much.
After few days you will be fine, he will be fine.. and you can breath easier when  you drop him off knowing you can see him in few hours again and that he is with lots of people and learning to be part of the community. School is very enriching experience for a child and regardless of many problems with the system as a whole, it is still good that there is such an option to have a kid daily does of socializing in such a large group and learn together so many new things.
Don't worry for the academic part, you can always supplement at home if you wish. It is going to be okay.
It must feel scary now but the first time you will go by your school at the end of the year and you see all the happy faces of kids you will see that they are leaving for Summer break sweet sour way.. they are happy to have vacation but they will miss their friends. Don't worry, there are quite few years till teen years till you will be put in second place to them hahahah.. till then it is all a very interesting and exciting journey that you are part of. Remember also that in life it is always true.. "it is not what it is, it is what you make of it". The more you stress the more the kid will, the more relaxed you will be the more relaxed kid will be. Project good energy, calm and peace and confidence in him and yourself.
It is new to every person that was in  your shoes, ever person who had ever a kid and had to send them to school for the first time felt what you are feeling regardless if they had greatest experience at school or the worse.

Hugs and blessings!

I am also including this super calming song by Ze Frank.. this song has a very unusual story behind it, look it up if you want. 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j-cVn_8MY0g
[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j-cVn_8MY0g[/youtube]

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