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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again, thanks for the replies. 
I wanted to clarify a couple of points. 
1. The painting of my mom's kitchen was my sister's idea (we'll call her Larla). After my dad died we encouraged mom to update the house a bit. In doing so, mom had her cabinets refinished about 5 months ago. She was going to have the same guys paint but Larla said not to. That she would help paint and save some money. So the fact that she keeps bailing on mom because of the dog (that she already had when she promised to help) is a bit frustrating. 
2. 4th of July. I totally get not wanting to take your dog to the party during the fireworks or leaving it alone at home. Larla lives 15 minutes from our other sister Darla so in theory, Larla could bring the dog to the party and then go home when fireworks start at 10. 
3. These are not isolated incidents, only the most recent. For the past year she has called Darla and i to pick up things from Target or Whole Foods because she doesn't want to leave the dog alone on the weekends her husband works. She has given up many of the hobbies she used to enjoy (and still says she does enjoy) like golf, painting and yoga because her husband works odd shifts and sometimes is out of town and she refuses to ever leave the dog alone, leave it in the car (this was in the winter) while she shops or kennel it at home.

The dog is a GREAT dog. It does not chew things, is house broken and is great with other dogs/people. This is not a high needs rescue. They bought it from a breeder and it has a wonderful temperament.

Darla and i are worried because this is a big change from how Larla used to be. Instead of going out and doing things like she used to like, she is now almost a shut in with this dog.  She calls us 'bored' and frustrated she can never leave the house when Larlo her husband is gone. 
I get loving your pets, we have 2 dogs and i love them dearly. We do have to modify events or things we do but it seems extreme to never ever leave the dog alone either in a house, or kennel. 
It is hard to describe, but it is like the dog is giving her anxiety. She constantly follows the dog around and not in a 'just checking out  the new environment' sort of way. It is disrupting her life and on some level i know she knows it, but i have been hesitant to push because i know she loves the dog. I just fear her love for the dog is causing her to lose other things she loves. [/quote]

I am one of the posters who earlier said that she didn’t sound super over the top, but with this further info it does sound unhealthy. I have no idea what you can do about it though. [/quote]

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