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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Vacations are in way perfect for spending more time and connecting with your family, so why many people vacation without their kids? I am not trying to be judging, I want to understand what the thought process.[/quote]

Because there are things I enjoy, and want to do, that my kids don't want to do, or aren't appropriate for them.  And I see no reason why my spouse and I should have to wait 15 years to go wine tasting in Napa, for example.

Our kids stay with their grandparents, and all parties involved love the arrangements.

So, let me ask you - what is difficult to understand about this?  Do you have a hard time interacting with your spouse if your kids aren't present?  Do you need the kids as a buffer?  [/quote]

Nope. My kids are 20 and 18 now .  We have a very strong marriage. Napa is not a necessity and is selfish. I would save that for when the kids are grown.

Do you know delayed gratification? Do you always put yourself first? You can manage without Napa.[/quote]

I see, so parents should only do things apart from their kids with it is necessary?  Never just because they want to?  Anything that is just a "want" should be delayed?

Also, please explain the selfish to me.  DO you think kids need to be with their all the time?  Do you think a child is harmed by staying with someone else - a grandparent, friends, another relative - for a week?  Seriously, what is the basis for the thought that this is selfish.

It seems like the entire basis for this is that the children are somehow harmed by the parents taking a vacation by themselves.  But, no one can describe what that harm is.  Can you?  
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A want that includes leaving kids behind for a week is cruel. I hated when my mom used to leave me to go back to visit her family overseas. And I still had my dad and siblings at home.

Kids need to feel prioritized.[/quote]

That's ridiculous.  My parents vacationed without my sister and me and we told them to have fun!  They brought us home stuffed animals and we looked over their pictures and we told them about the fun we had while they were gone with the extended family. I absolutely didn't need to be prioritized, and in fact it felt good to know my parents were still in love and wanted alone time.[/quote]

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