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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't see what's rude.  Direct isn't rude.  She didn't pad it out with a bunch of excuses or a vague offer for "another time," but she didn't say anything mean or unkind, she just said no.  Maybe she's generally a very direct person, or a little socially awkward.  I don't see why you'd take offense.  [/quote]

You must struggle in life with that low EQ. [/quote]

OMG my thought exactly. And I often think the worst feature of DCUM is other low-EQ posters affirming rude behavior as "perfectly fine" to other EQ posters. Eek.

And in case the PP who didn't "see why you'd take offense" was genuine about her lack of understanding--I will explain: A response like "i am going to decline your invitation" without providing any sort of "softener" sends a very clear message to the one who extended the invitation that you want nothing to do with that person. And, though you may find this hard to believe...it is quite typical for people to be a bit wounded when they have extended an invitation in friendship only to be shut down with such blunt rejection, often leaving them to question "did I say/do something to offend her?" That is a very normal reaction.
If one does not want to cause such a reaction, then the *polite* way to decline an invitation is to say "Thank you so much for your kind invitation, but unfortunately we need to decline. Perhaps another time, though." (You still get to say no...but it allows the person who issued the invitation to see you in the neighborhood and be able to say hello and exchange pleasant smiles.) The way that OP's acquaintance declined read like an unexpected and unnecessary slap in the face.[/quote]

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