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[quote=Anonymous]11 year olds are not expected to act like that. Maybe 4 year olds.

Your kid is in big trouble, too- as he allowed this knowing that room was off limits. Let him know that and, frankly, some sort of consequence is in order. He needs to understand what is appropriate. When I was a kid and had allowed a friend to go into my parents' bedroom or office- I would not be here writing this response.  And, as  7 year old, I would have known better. My own kids knew better  by the time they had kids over to play. My job is to keep them safe, not to assume they would gravitate beyond any boundary and fight  to the extent that they destroy a room in my home. It is outrageous!

You can't expect these other parents to pay up. If they haven't offered, it isn't happening. Your child should know that he cannot invite these kids over again- he knows why. He also needs to know that you expect his behavior in other houses to be upstanding. If nothing else, he learned something here. If he cannot control friends in his house, he doesn't have the privilege to have friends over.

I do not think people have to LOCK rooms when kids have their friends over. They aren't toddlers in need of babyproofing. What is to stop them from taking your liquor or meds in the bathroom? Are you going to lock up everything? What about your drawers? Off limits is off limits. Make sure your kids know what the house rules are when they have guests. When they are teens, you will be involved with a different kind of supervising,but right now it was reasonable to expect that they should not be physically fighting in some kid's parent's office and destroying the place.

Now all of us- go back to the teaching threads where the the teachers try to desribe what it is like to teach kids in today's societal environment. These were two kids in someone else's home, not 24  kids -  with entitlements given by their parents. 
God help us all.[/quote]

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