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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If this counts:  My spouse confronted me, I denied it, I had enough to plausibly deny and not enough evidence for spouse to confirm which gives spouse a sense of perhaps it didn't happen.  But anyway, it did scare me straight and made me realize while it was fun it wasn't worth risking my family.  Also, I now can spot the signs an affair is blossoming and cut it off before the next step.[/quote]
You sound just like my husband. Denied and lied to me about everything he possibly could and explained everything away. But I did a lot of my own homework and found evidence to confirm much of what he lied about. Don't assume this won't happen to you. Do you feel any guilt about lying?[/quote]

NP.  This also happened to me.  Spouse denied.  I played detective.  Spouse then acknowledged something but lied some more.  I played detective some more, and found out spouse was lying.  I kicked spouse out of house and have full custody of our children, who, because lying is corrosive to all relationships, have little respect for him even though they don't know about his cheating and lying vis-a-vis me.

I'm sure my now exDH thought he got away with it.  It did take about 2 years to unravel fully.  It's really sad that he lied when confronted - for me, because he wasted 2 years of my life and caused me even further pain; for him, because I was willing to reconcile, and further lying really killed that, and meant that he lived those two years with a sword of Damocles over his head, which was very anxiety provoking for him, and then the shock of having lost everything.

You might think you've gotten away with it, but you have no idea what your wife knows or doesn't know.  She may leave you tomorrow or 10 years from now when the kids are grown.

Also, BTW, your pathologically sick for preferring to gaslight your wife (" I denied it, I had enough to plausibly deny and not enough evidence for spouse to confirm which gives spouse a sense of perhaps it didn't happen") than to accept any consequences from your own behavior (cheating).    The fact that you stated that preference so clearly is really messed up.  Hope you are in therapy and striving to be honest and make amends one day, but somehow I don't think that is the case. [/quote]

You sound like a psycho.  Who takes full custody because of cheating?!

Signed,
DW whose husband cheated [/quote]

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