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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, my kids don’t have anxiety. They are successful college students. My 17 year old started early, yay!! He is gifted. No, we didn’t do carpool. Why would we? We, the parents drove them where they needed to go.[/quote] Wow, this is unusual. You ask "why would we?" There are a million reasons! One of the many: did your kids never get invited anywhere with anyone? [/quote] Play dates: we dropped them off and picked them up. They didn’t go anywhere overnight.[/quote] I know who you are!! And FYI — your kids did so much you never knew about.[/quote] Right?? lol She's either messed them up with her unreasonable paranoia that they're just as paranoid as she is, or they're definitely placating her by telling her what she wants to hear & then driving wherever they want with whomever they want. Why do you think her little genius wanted to go off to college so early?? So he could live like a REAL teenager & stop missing out on everything. I feel so sorry for those kids... some of the greatest bonding moments our kids had were in carpool![/quote] Wrong He lives at home while attending University of Toronto. [/quote] First, your argument doesn't work with me because I DO stay home with my kids, no "lame" job for me, sorry. Second & more importantly... I'm very sorry for whatever traumatized you in your life, that you're now raising your children lead by your own fears. Keeping your children home for as long as you possibily can is FAR from being a good parent and it's definitely not something that you should be commended for. You're doing this for YOU, because you want to keep them close... this is not in THEIR best interest. Your job is to get your child ready to spread their wings, not make them afraid to fly away from your nest. While I could drive my kids everywhere, why should I do so when I've got a community of supportive moms helping each other out? We're not driving to Beirut & back, lol... we're driving a few miles tops. Oh & FYI, kids LOVE carpool! The moms are helping one another out & the kids are in the back seat laughing, singing, joking, bonding & making memories they'll always remember. Your job as a parent is to instill your children with the confidence that they could go out into the world & conquer it on their own if they choose to. Your job is to teach them strength, empathy, logic, morals, values and insight, so they can go off and become productive, respected members of society. You've become a literal roadblock to their adult lives (they may be teenagers, must they're still adults). You're impeding their growth & hampering their natural progression into the world. How do you envision their futures? Live home through college while their doting mom continues to cook, clean & do their laundry... Off to graduation - still at home... On to business school - still home... Getting jobs - still living at home, yay... Meeting their prospective wives (that part may be tough still living at home). After the wedding - the wife moves into your home (sleeping on those twin beds still, right?) like one big happy family? Sigh... You need to seek therapy & find out why your so afraid to let them out of your site & out of your control (if you haven't guessed it, this is all about retaining control). Slowly start to cut the apron strings, because one day when they're swapping stories with their college mates or future colleagues & they hear how other kids grew up, they WILL end up resenting you for keeping them so stifled, sheltered... ... and tethered to your hip. . [/quote]
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