Anonymous
04/08/2019 16:16
Subject: I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No, my kids don’t have anxiety. They are successful college students. My 17 year old started early, yay!! He is gifted.
No, we didn’t do carpool. Why would we? We, the parents drove them where they needed to go.
Wow, this is unusual. You ask "why would we?" There are a million reasons! One of the many: did your kids never get invited anywhere with anyone?
Play dates: we dropped them off and picked them up. They didn’t go anywhere overnight.
I know who you are!! And FYI — your kids did so much you never knew about.
Right?? lol
She's either messed them up with her unreasonable paranoia that they're just as paranoid as she is, or they're definitely placating her by telling her what she wants to hear & then driving wherever they want with whomever they want.
Why do you think her little genius wanted to go off to college so early?? So he could live like a REAL teenager & stop missing out on everything.
I feel so sorry for those kids... some of the greatest bonding moments our kids had were in carpool!
Wrong
He lives at home while attending University of Toronto.
You and your husband have never gone away for a couple days for a couples weekend or a wedding or ANYTHING in 20 years? That makes me so sad for you AND your kids!
Anonymous
04/08/2019 16:14
Subject: Re:I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
If an accident happens, you want them covered under your car insurance policy, especially if the other driver is uninsured or underinsured. This is why we only let our nanny and other family members drive our kids in our car. We have a million dollar uninsured/underinsured motor policy. If an accident happens in someone else’s car, it does not apply.
You are certainly dedicated to making your insurance company rich.
Anonymous
04/08/2019 16:08
Subject: I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
What's your rating vs grandma's?
Anonymous
04/08/2019 16:03
Subject: Re:I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
Have your parents fly down and meet them there. I am a anxious mom with major trust issues so I get it,
Anonymous
04/08/2019 14:42
Subject: Re:I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
OP, this thread has gone way off the rails with all the posts from crazy mom, but what kinds of cars are you talking about? And do your in-laws have driving or health issues? I wouldn't let my MIL drive my kids on a highway but she has severe anxiety about that (so she probably wouldn't want to anyway). I currently wouldn't let my FIL drive them on a highway either because he has been having a lot of health issues. But, he does have a car I'd consider safe (although I don't actually know). Unless their car is really old I'm having a hard time believing it's as unsafe as you say it is, so what exactly do they drive? And what do you drive that's so safe?
Anonymous
04/08/2019 14:33
Subject: I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
Anonymous wrote:Sorry I had the luxury of taking my kids everywhere. You people sound jealous. They are/ were my priority, not some lame job. You will nevwr get that time back when you let others do your parenting.
And there it is.
Anonymous
04/08/2019 14:30
Subject: I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
Anonymous wrote:NP here. I have never ever let my kids drive in the car with anyone but DH and I. My kids are 19 and 17 now. I’m glad I didn’t. There was no need.
So your kids never spent the night at a friend's house? I rode in so many of my friends' parents' cars growing up.
Anonymous
04/08/2019 11:26
Subject: I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
Anonymous wrote:NP here. I have never ever let my kids drive in the car with anyone but DH and I. My kids are 19 and 17 now. I’m glad I didn’t. There was no need.
This is insane.
Anonymous
04/07/2019 21:46
Subject: I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No, my kids don’t have anxiety. They are successful college students. My 17 year old started early, yay!! He is gifted.
No, we didn’t do carpool. Why would we? We, the parents drove them where they needed to go.
Wow, this is unusual. You ask "why would we?" There are a million reasons! One of the many: did your kids never get invited anywhere with anyone?
Play dates: we dropped them off and picked them up. They didn’t go anywhere overnight.
I know who you are!! And FYI — your kids did so much you never knew about.
Right?? lol
She's either messed them up with her unreasonable paranoia that they're just as paranoid as she is, or they're definitely placating her by telling her what she wants to hear & then driving wherever they want with whomever they want.
Why do you think her little genius wanted to go off to college so early?? So he could live like a REAL teenager & stop missing out on everything.
I feel so sorry for those kids... some of the greatest bonding moments our kids had were in carpool!
Wrong
He lives at home while attending University of Toronto.
First, your argument doesn't work with me because I DO stay home with my kids, no "lame" job for me, sorry.
Second & more importantly...
I'm very sorry for whatever traumatized you in your life, that you're now raising your children lead by your own fears.
Keeping your children home for as long as you possibily can is FAR from being a good parent and it's definitely not something that you should be commended for.
You're doing this for YOU, because you want to keep them close... this is not in THEIR best interest.
Your job is to get your child ready to spread their wings, not make them afraid to fly away from your nest.
While I could drive my kids everywhere, why should I do so when I've got a community of supportive moms helping each other out?
We're not driving to Beirut & back, lol... we're driving a few miles tops. Oh & FYI, kids LOVE carpool!
The moms are helping one another out & the kids are in the back seat laughing, singing, joking, bonding & making memories they'll always remember.
Your job as a parent is to instill your children with the confidence that they could go out into the world & conquer it on their own if they choose to.
Your job is to teach them strength, empathy, logic, morals, values and insight, so they can go off and become productive, respected members of society.
You've become a literal roadblock to their adult lives (they may be teenagers, must they're still adults).
You're impeding their growth & hampering their natural progression into the world.
How do you envision their futures?
Live home through college while their doting mom continues to cook, clean & do their laundry...
Off to graduation - still at home...
On to business school - still home...
Getting jobs - still living at home, yay...
Meeting their prospective wives (that part may be tough still living at home).
After the wedding - the wife moves into your home (sleeping on those twin beds still, right?) like one big happy family? Sigh...
You need to seek therapy & find out why your so afraid to let them out of your site & out of your control (if you haven't guessed it, this is all about retaining control).
Slowly start to cut the apron strings, because one day when they're swapping stories with their college mates or future colleagues & they hear how other kids grew up, they WILL end up resenting you for keeping them so stifled, sheltered...
... and tethered to your hip.
.
They can live at home as long as they want. UNTIL they get married.
No I haven’t done their laundry since they were 12.
My BIL lived at home until he was married at 29. He saved every cent. He had 600k saved up. No debt. That’s just smart.
Anonymous
04/07/2019 21:43
Subject: I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No, my kids don’t have anxiety. They are successful college students. My 17 year old started early, yay!! He is gifted.
No, we didn’t do carpool. Why would we? We, the parents drove them where they needed to go.
Wow, this is unusual. You ask "why would we?" There are a million reasons! One of the many: did your kids never get invited anywhere with anyone?
Play dates: we dropped them off and picked them up. They didn’t go anywhere overnight.
I know who you are!! And FYI — your kids did so much you never knew about.
Right?? lol
She's either messed them up with her unreasonable paranoia that they're just as paranoid as she is, or they're definitely placating her by telling her what she wants to hear & then driving wherever they want with whomever they want.
Why do you think her little genius wanted to go off to college so early?? So he could live like a REAL teenager & stop missing out on everything.
I feel so sorry for those kids... some of the greatest bonding moments our kids had were in carpool!
Wrong
He lives at home while attending University of Toronto.
You post as if you think this all makes you a better parent or that it's brag worthy. It's really not!
Do kids who go away to college want to get away from parents? Seems someone insinuated that. Yet mine loved me so much they stayed
And I have no doubt that you strongly encouraged him to stay home, right?
Nope
Anonymous
03/12/2019 14:02
Subject: I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No, my kids don’t have anxiety. They are successful college students. My 17 year old started early, yay!! He is gifted.
No, we didn’t do carpool. Why would we? We, the parents drove them where they needed to go.
Wow, this is unusual. You ask "why would we?" There are a million reasons! One of the many: did your kids never get invited anywhere with anyone?
Play dates: we dropped them off and picked them up. They didn’t go anywhere overnight.
I know who you are!! And FYI — your kids did so much you never knew about.
Right?? lol
She's either messed them up with her unreasonable paranoia that they're just as paranoid as she is, or they're definitely placating her by telling her what she wants to hear & then driving wherever they want with whomever they want.
Why do you think her little genius wanted to go off to college so early?? So he could live like a REAL teenager & stop missing out on everything.
I feel so sorry for those kids... some of the greatest bonding moments our kids had were in carpool!
Wrong
He lives at home while attending University of Toronto.
First, your argument doesn't work with me because I DO stay home with my kids, no "lame" job for me, sorry.
Second & more importantly...
I'm very sorry for whatever traumatized you in your life, that you're now raising your children lead by your own fears.
Keeping your children home for as long as you possibily can is FAR from being a good parent and it's definitely not something that you should be commended for.
You're doing this for YOU, because you want to keep them close... this is not in THEIR best interest.
Your job is to get your child ready to spread their wings, not make them afraid to fly away from your nest.
While I could drive my kids everywhere, why should I do so when I've got a community of supportive moms helping each other out?
We're not driving to Beirut & back, lol... we're driving a few miles tops. Oh & FYI, kids LOVE carpool!
The moms are helping one another out & the kids are in the back seat laughing, singing, joking, bonding & making memories they'll always remember.
Your job as a parent is to instill your children with the confidence that they could go out into the world & conquer it on their own if they choose to.
Your job is to teach them strength, empathy, logic, morals, values and insight, so they can go off and become productive, respected members of society.
You've become a literal roadblock to their adult lives (they may be teenagers, must they're still adults).
You're impeding their growth & hampering their natural progression into the world.
How do you envision their futures?
Live home through college while their doting mom continues to cook, clean & do their laundry...
Off to graduation - still at home...
On to business school - still home...
Getting jobs - still living at home, yay...
Meeting their prospective wives (that part may be tough still living at home).
After the wedding - the wife moves into your home (sleeping on those twin beds still, right?) like one big happy family? Sigh...
You need to seek therapy & find out why your so afraid to let them out of your site & out of your control (if you haven't guessed it, this is all about retaining control).
Slowly start to cut the apron strings, because one day when they're swapping stories with their college mates or future colleagues & they hear how other kids grew up, they WILL end up resenting you for keeping them so stifled, sheltered...
... and tethered to your hip.
.
Anonymous
03/12/2019 13:35
Subject: I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No, my kids don’t have anxiety. They are successful college students. My 17 year old started early, yay!! He is gifted.
No, we didn’t do carpool. Why would we? We, the parents drove them where they needed to go.
Wow, this is unusual. You ask "why would we?" There are a million reasons! One of the many: did your kids never get invited anywhere with anyone?
Play dates: we dropped them off and picked them up. They didn’t go anywhere overnight.
I know who you are!! And FYI — your kids did so much you never knew about.
Right?? lol
She's either messed them up with her unreasonable paranoia that they're just as paranoid as she is, or they're definitely placating her by telling her what she wants to hear & then driving wherever they want with whomever they want.
Why do you think her little genius wanted to go off to college so early?? So he could live like a REAL teenager & stop missing out on everything.
I feel so sorry for those kids... some of the greatest bonding moments our kids had were in carpool!
Wrong
He lives at home while attending University of Toronto.
You post as if you think this all makes you a better parent or that it's brag worthy. It's really not!
Do kids who go away to college want to get away from parents? Seems someone insinuated that. Yet mine loved me so much they stayed
And I have no doubt that you strongly encouraged him to stay home, right?
Anonymous
03/12/2019 12:55
Subject: I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No, my kids don’t have anxiety. They are successful college students. My 17 year old started early, yay!! He is gifted.
No, we didn’t do carpool. Why would we? We, the parents drove them where they needed to go.
Wow, this is unusual. You ask "why would we?" There are a million reasons! One of the many: did your kids never get invited anywhere with anyone?
Play dates: we dropped them off and picked them up. They didn’t go anywhere overnight.
I know who you are!! And FYI — your kids did so much you never knew about.
Right?? lol
She's either messed them up with her unreasonable paranoia that they're just as paranoid as she is, or they're definitely placating her by telling her what she wants to hear & then driving wherever they want with whomever they want.
Why do you think her little genius wanted to go off to college so early?? So he could live like a REAL teenager & stop missing out on everything.
I feel so sorry for those kids... some of the greatest bonding moments our kids had were in carpool!
Wrong
He lives at home while attending University of Toronto.
Omg, he must feel SO smothered!
Do you wait outside of his classes to drive him home too?
Anonymous
03/12/2019 11:31
Subject: Re:I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
(this thread is off the rails insane) But... can you suggest that your parents rent a car? We've done that for road trips when we had an older car ourselves. I don't let my in-laws drive my kids on the freeway (they can drive them short distances on streets where I know they're not going above 25 or 30 MPH) given their age and driving records. It's caused a lot of tension in my family. So I honestly get both sides here. Another idea might be to rent a big van or something and all go together? Not sure you'd save enough on gas for 1 big car versus 2 smaller ones, but that way you get the road trip singalong fun and togetherness that folks may be wanting?
For the record, my kids drive with the parents of their friends relatively often, and I offer rides to their friends... we have bumble seats for extra boosters when needed... I don't check safety ratings of the cars, but if I knew someone drove a total beater and the destination required freeway driving or was more than 10 minutes away, I might decline a carpool and offer to drive the kids myself.
For the record, my kids drive with the parents of their friends relatively often, and I offer rides to their friends... we have bumble seats for extra boosters when needed... I don't check safety ratings of the cars, but if I knew someone drove a total beater and the destination required freeway driving or was more than 10 minutes away, I might decline a carpool and offer to drive the kids myself.
Anonymous
03/12/2019 11:17
Subject: I don’t want my kids in their car. Reasonable?
Anonymous wrote:Sorry I had the luxury of taking my kids everywhere. You people sound jealous. They are/ were my priority, not some lame job. You will nevwr get that time back when you let others do your parenting.
Toronto mom, i am with you. I can see myself being you, my toddler is only 3 though. My ILs have been trying to take her to the park, or "go places", i shot it down. They are 80 and at this point pretty questionable drivers, my husband is reluctant to ride with them. I can't see anyone outside of the family driving my kid.