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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Appreciate the replies. This is OP.

I am very very thankful for my parents sacrifices. I feel guilty on a daily basis. I'm really sad that while I can buy a latte at 3pm just as a little treat, my little sister at home doesn't have any pocket money to go out with her friends. Daily reminders like that are very difficult.

I agree with everyone about needing to do a job change. I am attempting to figure out next career moves.  It is just unfortunate that I have not been making enough of an income to pay my bills, pay for my own very modest wedding with DH in addition to committing to sending home 200k+ per month.

It is just not mathematically possible for me at this time. My DH and I are "DC poor" with a HHI of less than 150k combined. With school loans, paying for our wedding last year and everything else we are pretty tight financially.

My DH is very generous and encourages me to send bits of my income home when I am able. I  usually send money to cover emergencies and siblings schooling, in addition to help pay off my dad's many debts.

My younger brother who lives here has also been helping out but he is at a crossroads. He feels that it is not fair to him that our parents put him in this situation. He was too young to make a choice or have a say in this situation and he was forced into an agreement he was unable to decline. He is frustrated that he is 28 and has very little savings. He has a nice life though and goes on multiple vacations a year domestically with his girlfriend.

I see his point. My parents' financial mess is a blackhole and I would need to be earning about 300k+ to be able to significantly help such as a. buy them a permanent home in India, spend $100k + to pay off all of the loans and pay for my siblings to attend college.

It is a lot. Neither of us are particularly high earning another my brother is in finance and will eventually make more.

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So you are paying for your own grad school?

Your brother may be thinking that nobody will want to marry him if too much of his money goes to his own parents and nothing to his wife and kids.

I think you need to very seriously ask your parents how they think you can afford children if you also have to pay off all of their debts.[/quote]

If I go to graduate school, yes. I am looking to see if I can get a scholarship or some way in which those loans would be less. [/quote]

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