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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes to hiring household help/lawn service, etc.

However, I am strongly opposed to (any kind of)  nursing home if there are financial resources to support staying in the home.  I have watched three great grandparents die in very expensive "assisted living" facilities, and while the facilities were the best money could buy, and we did visit regularly, each elderly person seemed to suffer a marked decline upon leaving the home.  In each case, it was heartbreaking to take the elderly person from their home and move them in to the facility.  They didn't complain, but it was clearly traumatic, and I understand this.

My surviving parent will go into a home over my dead body.  I will do anything possible to keep him in his home when the time comes.  
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I agree IF people are nearby. I'm the AZ poster above and my parents won't leave their house to move to another they are familiar with. It's closer to family, they can keep their pets, my sister who is burning out now, will have much more family help, etc. We are telling my folks they will have a choice - move back to their home state to be around family OR go into assisted living. End of. If I have to get doctors/lawyers involved I will. Father is willing (has friends he wants to be around), mother is now, I believe failing into dementia, and everyone seems to cater to her emotional tantrums because they 'feel badly'.  I don't. I'm angry as hell! Safety is key. [/quote]

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