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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes. She gets to inherit equally. I am the only caregiver for my dad and my aunt (two seperate households).  They pay for all their expenses.  The money of my dad will be split between myself and my brother. My aunt's money will be split between my two cousins. She will probably give some piece of jewellery for me, but she may not.

One thing as a caretaker I have felt keenly is that life is too short to burn all bridges.  If you are in a position to help in any way, you do that and be grateful that you are a caregiver not a care receiver.  The money belongs equally to the heirs or offsprings of the person.  It is just bad on so many levels to cut someone off.  This can be never something that a parent wants for their offsprings. Tell your parent that the money should come to both the offsprings and when they breathe their last they will go happier. [/quote]

I am the primary caregiver for my parents, though I have some paid help. Both of my parents have dementia. I sort of agree re making things equal....but at the same time, I am sacrificing a lot, financially and careerwise. I am living in their house out of necessity, but I am paying for my personal expenses other than health insurance, which my parents pay. If I was charging their estate even minimum wage, it would help. But I am not. My brother and sister do NOTHING. Yet they will inherit equally. My parents have actually said they think I should get more. But, since they have dementia....I am scared for them to change their wills. So, it is what it is. The inheritance I will receive will be pretty large even despite being split equally. If it was smaller, and I needed the money, I might feel differently and try to get some of my expenses covered.

Probably best to split equally though I agree it is not fair.[/quote]

pp here - i should add, while i have free housing, i don not want to live in this location. there are no jobs for me here and even if there were i need to be around the house all the time anyway due to the dementia. so the free housing isnt really a bonus.[/quote]

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