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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here: [b]My sister has said our stepdad didn't touch her but he looked at her and made her feel uncomfortable.[/b] Of course he looked at us. He also helped us with homework, sports, etc.

She won't help care for my mom but I really think it's her selfishness. [b]She has a very busy social and career life.[/b] No, I don't ask my mom to pay me for going to see about her. Maybe I should but that seems really mercenary. I consider it part of my family responsibility. By the same token my sister's neglect doubles the amount I need to do so I don't think she's entitled to half.[/quote]

Could it be that sister was prettier and thus a target of stepdad's lecherous looking? Could that have made OP jealous [b]because the male in the house was paying the sister more attention[/b]?

OP also sound[b]s jealous of sister's social life and career.[/b] Perhaps this is more about sibling rivalry and a case of sour grapes as far as OP is concerned and she is justifying it to show that she is a better daughter to her mother.  In reality, a good daughter would give her parents the happiness of thinking that the relationship between the siblings was loving, even if it was a pretence for the sake of parents. [/quote]

Your points are really bizarre. I don't know any woman who thinks that way. *Shudder*
And her being jealous? My siblings do most of the caretaking and I would absolutely insist they get more than me. It seems only fair. [/quote]

Do you know any women who think it’s cool for a man to leer at his stepdaughters?[/quote]

Yeah, PP is super creepy. There are zero teenage who would be jealous of an old man flirting with her sister.

No matter what the girls relationship is like, I find it hard to believe that any girl would secretly be jealous of that - but especially not a teen. [/quote]

You'd be surprised. When you have a situation where one sibling is emotionally neglected while the other is given inappropriate attention, the neglected sibling is often jealous of the attention, affection, etc., being lavished on the abused sibling, even when that attention/affection is inappropriate. Because they are viewing it through their lens of their own neglect, all the neglected sibling can see is that the abused sibling is getting love and attention that the neglected sibling is not, and they feel jealous. In turn, the abused sibling will tend to minimize the suffering of the neglected sibling, seeing only that the neglected sibling wasn't abused and not that the neglected sibling's needs weren't being met either, that the neglected sibling suffered as well, albeit differently. I can't speak to whether this is/was the dynamic between OP and her sister, but it's not uncommon.[/quote]

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