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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here: [b]My sister has said our stepdad didn't touch her but he looked at her and made her feel uncomfortable.[/b] Of course he looked at us. He also helped us with homework, sports, etc.

She won't help care for my mom but I really think it's her selfishness. [b]She has a very busy social and career life.[/b] No, I don't ask my mom to pay me for going to see about her. Maybe I should but that seems really mercenary. I consider it part of my family responsibility. By the same token my sister's neglect doubles the amount I need to do so I don't think she's entitled to half.[/quote]

Could it be that sister was prettier and thus a target of stepdad's lecherous looking? Could that have made OP jealous [b]because the male in the house was paying the sister more attention[/b]?

OP also sound[b]s jealous of sister's social life and career.[/b] Perhaps this is more about sibling rivalry and a case of sour grapes as far as OP is concerned and she is justifying it to show that she is a better daughter to her mother.  In reality, a good daughter would give her parents the happiness of thinking that the relationship between the siblings was loving, even if it was a pretence for the sake of parents. [/quote]

Your points are really bizarre. I don't know any woman who thinks that way. *Shudder*

And her being jealous? My siblings do most of the caretaking and I would absolutely insist they get more than me. It seems only fair. [/quote]

NP-Obviously you have not been exposed to homes with this abuse dynamic. I have and so have the friends I shared this thread with.  The poster you are replying to is correct in identifying those factors. Also, if he had touched her, why would she tell this OP? She in no way seems an ally or sympatnetic. There is a lot of shame and vulnerability with being or having been the victim of abuse. I wouldn’t share anything, includingthe degree of it with this OP, sister or not. I’ll bet he did touch her and OP is unworthy of being her confidant.
Personally, I think the sisters should be 50/50 split, after some has been removed to cover the mother’s care. If you are blessed with great wealth then taking care of your mother’s needs without depleting her estate would also be fine and you recoup some from the 50/50 split. This is what we did, with the wealthiest sibling refusing her inheritance and dividing it only between the other two siblings.[/quote]

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