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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]this makes me sad. I want to adopt but one of my biggest fears is my "baby" leaving me for the bio family [/quote]

Then you should not adopt.  Period.  An adoptee’s bio family is her family.  Her first mother IS her mother.  She may have brothers and sisters.  You would be her adoptive mom and if you do it right, you are her famiky, too, but you NEVER negate the existence of her first family.  And just as we all have some family that we are closer to, some family we “click” with, and some family we don’t, an adopted child may choose to spend more time with her first family than yours someday.  That is okay.  If you are open and accepting of the reality of your child’s first family, all the better for all of you.  But if you can only be happy raising an adopted child by erasing her first family, do NOT adopt.  You are what anti-adoption blogs are made of.[/quote]

My child does not have a first and second family.  They have one family.  There is no such thing as the birth family being the first or only family.  Parents who adopt are not babysitters and those bloggers are usually nuts.

And, my child's birth mom doesn't "exist" anymore.[/quote]

Your child's birthmom does exist whether you like it or not and for the sake of your child, get it together. [/quote]

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