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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s been more than a few times now that husband jokes about looking at younger girls or how certain girls are very attractive and how certain customers love their work because of their looks.

He has even gushed over famous actresses and how gorgeous they are in front of friends with me right there. It is humiliating. [b]I have told him so and he just turns it around and says that I am a “prude” and this is the reason why he doesn’t want to go out with me.[/b]

He just spent extra time chatting it up with the flight attendant [b]completely ignoreing me and our children who were just up ahead. A stranger wouldn’t have even thought we were a family.[/b]

[b]The worst was when I was pregnant with our second st a concert and he was blatantly stwring at a younger woman dressed in a short tight dress in front of us as we were waiting to go up the steps and leave. It was so obvious that the boyfriend out his arms around her and hugged her. Meanwhile, I had to stand there with my huge belly and pretend I didn’t notice.[/b]

I know he enjoys work happy hours with younger staff and jumps at the opportunity. I cringe at the comments he makes without me around and flat out do not want to be around his colleagues.

Now, they are having a holiday party at a night club, instead of the traditional formal dinner, and he is thrilled about it. Not I. I do not want to be around his colleague as he talks about how other women are so attractive.

Plus, when he got the email invitation, he came home and mentioned it to me. [b]I was surprised that it was at a club so I questioned it because it wasn’t in the past, and he retorted, “Well I’M going, I don’t know about you.”[/b]

I said that of course I would go, since I am his wife but was hurt that we was so quick to consider going without me.

He clearly has a wandering eye and I wonder if this is a sign that with the right opportunity, he may cheat.

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I copied this for all of the weird posters here who are saying her husband is normal and OP is making an issue out of nothing. Yes, it's fine that he finds other (and younger) women attractive, and that he is not blind to them. It's fine / I'm sure to some extent normal for a guy to make comments to his friends about other women's attractiveness...I'll allow that it's fine even (if a bit tacky) that he comments to other people about hot celebrities / other women's attractiveness in front of his wife, although if done to excess it's clearly just uncomfortable for the other people who are standing there feeling bad for his wife.

But reread the things I've bolded - that stuff is NOT normal. He sounds like an incredibly insecure (and somewhat socially inept) guy who is trying WAYA too (cringingly) hard to sound cool or impress other men. And making those types of comments to / about colleagues is downright inappropriate - not only is he coming across as a total unprofessional creep who is making everyone uncomfortable, he's absolutely putting his career in jeopardy. Guarantee he has a reputation at the office and his creepiness is discussed behind his back - what a horrible thing to be known for. And the incident with the young woman at the concern...ugh. How gross and lecherous. Again, him noticing her and even checking her out would not be abnormal; him staring so blatantly and intently that everyone around was aware of it, she (and you!) were made to feel extremely awkward, and her boyfriend felt the need to adopt a protective stance...that's above and beyond. Not normal. He doesn't sound like a good (or cool...) guy, and I would agree there must be some sort of midlife crisis not to mention social ineptitude going on here. And he definitely does not seem to respect OP or have any interest in feigning it, which is absolutely a problem. OP I think I would insist on counseling - is this an option? [/quote]

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