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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't tell children, or anyone else. It's just being a gossip and trying to hurt people. Just like I wouldn't say other private information that I knew about - aunt Larla refused to get a job and compulsively spent all the family money, or Aunt Larla stopped having sex with Uncle Larlo before he had the affair. The only reason to talk about it would be to spread gossip and pain. I don't do that.  [/quote]

Gossip is not truthful statement.

It's not gossip it facts. Do kids need to know all the facts ... no.

But hiding facts is stupid, kids know, they peg you as a liar or disingenuous.

Your relationship with your kids is way more important that protecting Aunt Larla and Uncle Larlo. [/quote]

There is a middle ground between lying and laying out the whole ugly truth. In this case, if the kid needs to put two and two together and ask about it, OP could say something like, “What happens in a marriage and why a marriage ends is private between the two people in the marriage. To the extent I know anything about the split, I know it’s probably not the full story so I don’t feel comfortable speculating about it.” The kid can read between the lines and knowntou haven’t denied it, but then you’re also setting an example of discretion and respect for others.[/quote]

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