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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a lame mom.

I had my daughter at 40. I’ve had 20 years to do all kinds of cool things, attend all kinds of parties, go out dancing all night, etc. I was single for a long time, partnered with DH for a long time, but enjoyed my time to the fullest. And then she came (planned).

She’s 21 months, and this time with her isn’t going to last forever. I love watching her grow,[b] teaching her new things[/b], watching the world through her eyes, and sometimes just snuggling with her, or let her sleep beside us and watch a movie. This is a sweet and delicious period in my life. This is MY new adventure, and I love every moment of it. I’ve done bars, concerts, festivals, etc. And right now, all those don’t compare to that little hand in mine.

Now, we still travel, even overseas, with her, so I’m not completely lame.. I just don’t feel the need to go out all the time, and when I do, I often enjoy to do it with her so I can enjoy her.

I think this is a “to each their own” issue. [/quote]

Thanks for pointing this out. A lot of my energy is expended in this, so at 7 PM I do not feel like heading out to dinner. Different folks, different strokes. 
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Op here. My toddler is the same age and I spend all day with her while the big kids are at school. It is 10am and we have read at least 10 books. We have gone to the museum, playground, pumpkin patch last week. There is no shortage of time spent teaching her new things. [/quote]

PP you are responding to. I work, so the evening time is precious and time consuming and draining. So I do not feel like socializing then.[/quote]

PP, your first post (and also response to OP) are spot on for me too. I work, so my toddler is in daycare 5 days a week. She's my first, and will be only, because infertility is a bitch. So, yeah, I'm not yet 'over' the excitement of spending time with my kid and teaching her things. This is the only time I'll get to do this. Thankfully my friends get it and are understanding kind people (even the ones with older children). I'm taking a bit of time off mid-day this week to go to lunch with my best girlfriend so we can catch up without kids or partners. If you can't accommodate your long time friends current life situations and expect them to change when you change I don't think you'll have many friends for life. Also, the word 'lame' as used in this context is ableist--wasn't sure if you knew that or not. [/quote]

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