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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really don't understand why everyone is jumping all over OP. She took a "hit" in her career so that HE could be the breadwinner, and now with one toddler and another on the way, which will only increase expenses, he wants to duck out. I'd be unhappy too.

That said, the legal field isn't just big law or bust. DH and I are lawyers and make combined salary that is more than fed/nonprofit ($350K). We see our kids every morning and night for quality time. I work a lot, but it's flexible. Don't let resentment build. Work on adjusting your "life plan" for yourself first, then communicate with him what the 1 year, 5 year plan should look like so he is satisfied and you are satisfied.[/quote]

I wonder whether OP was really on partner-track herself, or just a senior associate whose prospects weren’t as good as her spouse’s. She’s implied that she thinks she and her spouse should make rational economic decisions, but it really would not have been a rational decision to move from the cusp of partnership to a non-profit position.  So I do think that she’s overplayed her own sacrifices and understated the extent to which her DH has long had the better earnings potential.  She wants posters to think she can “negotiate” with her DH, but it’s really his call.[/quote]

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