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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like your main concern is the drop in income and lifestyle adjustments that will need to happen.  Understandable, but that's not really fair to the person who is burdened with maintaining that.  I think you need to be as supportive as possible of what your DH wants to do about his career, and find a way as a couple to make that happen for him - just as you'd want him to support your career choices.  Sit down together and go over the budget to figure out how things will look, and discuss your concerns with him.  But at the end of the day, you really need to trust that he'll make the decision that's best for everyone.  Otherwise there's going to be a lot of resentment between you two.

I also don't think you can expect him to handle it the same way you would if you were the one who had stayed in BigLaw.  And like you said, you really DON'T know how you'd be feeling at this point in your career had you stayed, so that line of thinking is totally irrelevant.

If you are really concerned about the money, go back to a firm or get a higher paying job yourself.  [/quote]

OP here. Thank you for some actual advice. These are helpful suggestions. As I hope was clear in my post, I do want to support him and do want him to be less stressed and happier. I'm just trying to figure out how to re-jigger the way we save because I want to be prudent about college savings, retirement, etc. and admittedly it was a lot easier to do that with a sky-high HHI.

I'll ignore the other trolls.[/quote]

It's a little hard to commiserate when many other people save for these things without a large salary.[/quote]

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